When He Calls and Texts But Doesn't Ask You Out

If you have a guy who is calling and texting you but not asking you out or making plans to see you, it's confusing to say the least. I mean, why on earth would he be calling if he doesn't want to spend time with you. The answer is simple. He doesn't see you as a priority, just an option. Guys will call and text girls just enough to keep them interested.

He may have other girls that he is interested in, but wants to keep you on the back burner. He may like you, I mean he has to think something of you if he is calling and texting, but the key is, he doesn't think enough of you. If he thought more of you, he would be asking you out.

The guy that keeps you on that back burner has a few tricks also. He may even ask you to spend some time with him, but if you notice, he always has an escape route planned in the form of using words like, "maybe", "I'll let you know", anything that he can call up later to back out or make an excuse.

Think about it. When have you had a guy that you likes a little, but weren't that into so you just kind of strung him along. You used those escape routes when he wanted to pin you down to a date. You might say something like, maybe, I will let you know, and then throw out some excuse about work or whatever.

The bottom line though, if a guy is calling and texting and not asking you out, he is not pursuing a relationship with you. He isn't serious. This doesn't mean he won't change his mind, but as long as you are waiting on his call, hoping he will step up, you are wasting energy. There are ways to handle these texts and calls to get him to step it up, but waiting around on him isn't going to work.

Learn how to turn calls and texts into more and escalate your love life.

The Rules For Calling Men You Must Know to Keep Your Relationship Alive

Do you initiate the calls and texting? If you haven't heard from him do you ring him first? Do you ever engage in all day texting with him? There are rules for calling guys, these rules also carry over to texting guys as well

If you do or have done any of these things above, chances are you are too available and trust me, he will sense it. He will know you are making him a priority and he will not find you a challenge. Men love a challenge. That which comes easy is not appreciated or treasured. One of the rules for calling men is to let him do the initiating, let me explain why this is critical.

Think of his car. If he has an old beat up jalopy that he got for just a few hundred, he really puts no value in it. On the other hand if he has a really nice shiny sports car that he had to work long hard hours to afford, he sees it completely different. He washes it every weekend, parks it where no one can scratch or dent it. Most of all he sees it as very valuable. He doesn't want anyone else driving it. Same goes for the rules for calling men. If you are calling him, you will never be the pretty shiny car that he takes great care of.

This should be your mindset when handling phone calls or texts from your guy. If you make it too easy for him, you eventually become that jalopy. I am not saying ignore his calls, but a girl with self value does not revolve her life around a man nor depend on his contact for validation. A woman that values herself, will inspire a man to value her as well.

Go on with you life like he isn't your main focus. If you are busy, call him back when you can. If you haven't heard from him, don't call him, don't text him, don't email him, sit tight. Don't become glued to your phone. He will notice you are not calling and it increases your degree of value in his eyes. It gives him something to work for because if you aren't calling or texting, well he sees you as not quite available yet. This causes him to work harder.

How you handle calls and texts from the men in your life is critical in building the attraction in a relationship. Knowledge of how to handle the phone, your biggest tool in the dating pool is critical.