Showing posts with label rules for texting guys. Show all posts
Showing posts with label rules for texting guys. Show all posts
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
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Tuesday, October 4, 2011
How To Be Mysterious Texting Guys
It's human nature to love a mystery. It's the unknown that we often find attracts us to another. Think about it really. How much time do you spend analyzing a man? You do this because of what you don't know, all the while creating a bit of fantasy in your head. Men are the same way, trust me. It's what they don't know that keeps them coming back for more. You can use this to your advantage by creating mystery when texting guys.
So when learning how to be mysterious texing a guy, remember this golden rule. Less is more. It's the girl that engages in a text marathon that quickly loses his attention. She is too available, to much of an open book and this offers him no challenge, not to mention there is nothing mysterious about texting a guy constantly. If you really like him, this will be harder for you. You want to talk, connect and chat. Just remember, you have time. Don't rush it. Long term satisfaction over instant gratification.
The little smiley emoticon is one little trick I use to be mysterious when texing a guy. When he texts a compliment or something that makes me smile, instead of engaging in too much conversation, I just send a smiley face. This tells him he made me smile and gives him reinforcement. It also leaves him wondering. It's just enough to make him try again. His goal is to get more from you. It's mysterious to him because most girls just babble on and on. You don't, why are you different is what he starts to think.
Have you ever noticed that the guys that you don't really like as much seem to be impossible to get rid of while the ones you do disappear more often? This really isn't a coincidence. Chances are you are giving more to the guy you like and less to the guy you don't. You become a challenge to the guy you don't, he is intrigued as you seem elusive and mysterious. The guy you do like, you are jumping every time your phone goes off and answering him immediately because you are so exited. Challenge and mystery gone. So it only makes sense if you want to text a guy and be myserious, text with him like you would a guy who you don't fancy so much.
This takes self control yes. Once you practice these techniques though and begin to see results, it reinforces that it does work. It begins to become second nature. You are in essence training yourself with your own reward system. Wait to text him, don't be so eagar, be cool, hold back some, and watch him move forward to find out more about you. It feels good. Texting guys is a great way to escalate attraction, use it wisely.
Be friendly and receptive, but don't give too much too soon away in your texts. We often try to control the outcome. We share too much when texing a guy way too fast. A slow simmer tastes better than a rapid boil. Less is more when texting guys and building that air of mystery.
UP YOUR TEXT APPEAL
So when learning how to be mysterious texing a guy, remember this golden rule. Less is more. It's the girl that engages in a text marathon that quickly loses his attention. She is too available, to much of an open book and this offers him no challenge, not to mention there is nothing mysterious about texting a guy constantly. If you really like him, this will be harder for you. You want to talk, connect and chat. Just remember, you have time. Don't rush it. Long term satisfaction over instant gratification.
The little smiley emoticon is one little trick I use to be mysterious when texing a guy. When he texts a compliment or something that makes me smile, instead of engaging in too much conversation, I just send a smiley face. This tells him he made me smile and gives him reinforcement. It also leaves him wondering. It's just enough to make him try again. His goal is to get more from you. It's mysterious to him because most girls just babble on and on. You don't, why are you different is what he starts to think.
Have you ever noticed that the guys that you don't really like as much seem to be impossible to get rid of while the ones you do disappear more often? This really isn't a coincidence. Chances are you are giving more to the guy you like and less to the guy you don't. You become a challenge to the guy you don't, he is intrigued as you seem elusive and mysterious. The guy you do like, you are jumping every time your phone goes off and answering him immediately because you are so exited. Challenge and mystery gone. So it only makes sense if you want to text a guy and be myserious, text with him like you would a guy who you don't fancy so much.
This takes self control yes. Once you practice these techniques though and begin to see results, it reinforces that it does work. It begins to become second nature. You are in essence training yourself with your own reward system. Wait to text him, don't be so eagar, be cool, hold back some, and watch him move forward to find out more about you. It feels good. Texting guys is a great way to escalate attraction, use it wisely.
Be friendly and receptive, but don't give too much too soon away in your texts. We often try to control the outcome. We share too much when texing a guy way too fast. A slow simmer tastes better than a rapid boil. Less is more when texting guys and building that air of mystery.
UP YOUR TEXT APPEAL
When Texting Guys - Stop Doing This
The use of that laugh out loud, also known as lol at the end of your text could be hurting you. Do you know people that can't send a text message without putting this at the end of it? I know I do. It drives me crazy. I get a visual of the person sending it laughing at everything, even things that aren't funny. Not a pretty picture. Men are visual creatures. Need I say more.
I know it sounds silly but really think about it. When texting a guy do you need to tell him you find something funny. Try substituting that lol with a "Now that's funny". More personal for sure. You are trying to build attraction here and sure a good sense of humor is attractive, but come on. To end almost every text with that is just lame. For more text appeal, replace that lol at the end of a sentence with something that speaks more directly to him. Every one sends a lol, but not everyone takes the time to type out something creative to take it's place.
It also shows that you aren't confident in yourself when you use it all the time. If you have to tell a guy you are laughing, well it's sort of defeating the purpose. You don't trust yourself enough to trust him to know you are actually laughing in some cases. It's more powerful when texting guys to let him wonder a bit if you found something funny or not. It makes him try harder. It's more of a challenge. To send a lol is like saying, you should like me, I laugh at your jokes. Pick me! I am in agreement with you sort of thing.
The lol does have it's purpose. It's a great way to end a texting session. Ever get a lol and nothing more when texting a guy? Not much you can reply to that is it? Ending a texting conversation first is a good way to have more text appeal. Leave him while the conversation is good and he will be wanting more. The lol is perfect for this.
On the other hand if he texts you a lol, stop texting him period. It's a cut off. To keep texting seems just desperate and will deminish your text appeal fast. A lol sent and nothing else is like a period, the end. It takes little effort and is often saved as a pre-written message. The lmao is no different by the way. Use it sparingly to keep your text appeal in tact. The use of lol is just one of the many tips to increase your textual attraction.
TEXT APPEAL
I know it sounds silly but really think about it. When texting a guy do you need to tell him you find something funny. Try substituting that lol with a "Now that's funny". More personal for sure. You are trying to build attraction here and sure a good sense of humor is attractive, but come on. To end almost every text with that is just lame. For more text appeal, replace that lol at the end of a sentence with something that speaks more directly to him. Every one sends a lol, but not everyone takes the time to type out something creative to take it's place.
It also shows that you aren't confident in yourself when you use it all the time. If you have to tell a guy you are laughing, well it's sort of defeating the purpose. You don't trust yourself enough to trust him to know you are actually laughing in some cases. It's more powerful when texting guys to let him wonder a bit if you found something funny or not. It makes him try harder. It's more of a challenge. To send a lol is like saying, you should like me, I laugh at your jokes. Pick me! I am in agreement with you sort of thing.
The lol does have it's purpose. It's a great way to end a texting session. Ever get a lol and nothing more when texting a guy? Not much you can reply to that is it? Ending a texting conversation first is a good way to have more text appeal. Leave him while the conversation is good and he will be wanting more. The lol is perfect for this.
On the other hand if he texts you a lol, stop texting him period. It's a cut off. To keep texting seems just desperate and will deminish your text appeal fast. A lol sent and nothing else is like a period, the end. It takes little effort and is often saved as a pre-written message. The lmao is no different by the way. Use it sparingly to keep your text appeal in tact. The use of lol is just one of the many tips to increase your textual attraction.
TEXT APPEAL
Monday, March 28, 2011
Building Sexual Tension Texting Guys
This is really simple. It's sort of goes parallel with playing hard to get. It's about making him wait a bit before you give into his advances. Anticipation and building up to meeting a guy actually is sexual tension.
How do you do this, build this sexual tension. If he is texting you, asking you questions, don't always answer him so readily. Maybe even answer his question with a question. Inspire him to be creative to get your attention and your time. Now by all means, keep flirting, tossing him crumbs so he will know you could be interested.
It's sort of about keeping him guessing. He won't know if you are into him or not, but he thinks you could be. Think about playing the slot machine. It's the little wins that keep you playing in hopes of winning the jackpot.
You don't want to do this too long as he may give up. A week is good, if he is a patient sort, maybe a little longer. You want him to get excited about meeting you. If you meet a guy right off the bat, he isn't going to be that excited. He will be excited more if he had to work for it. We all know we value that which we work for.
When he texts you, don't answer him right away, but usually do answer in the same day. This paces the texting conversation. Occasionally do wait a day. If you pace him with your texting, you are in control. It prolongs the meeting, which is what you want to do. The longer he waits, the more excited he is going to be.
He may be telling his friends after a few days. "This girl texts me, and she seems interested, but I just don't know". If you can get him thinking like this, you got the sexual tension building. His imagination starts to do your work for you. A man's imagination is where the sexual tension is built.
Sexual tension is not really built with words, it's more about techniques, which you can learn more of here.
How do you do this, build this sexual tension. If he is texting you, asking you questions, don't always answer him so readily. Maybe even answer his question with a question. Inspire him to be creative to get your attention and your time. Now by all means, keep flirting, tossing him crumbs so he will know you could be interested.
It's sort of about keeping him guessing. He won't know if you are into him or not, but he thinks you could be. Think about playing the slot machine. It's the little wins that keep you playing in hopes of winning the jackpot.
You don't want to do this too long as he may give up. A week is good, if he is a patient sort, maybe a little longer. You want him to get excited about meeting you. If you meet a guy right off the bat, he isn't going to be that excited. He will be excited more if he had to work for it. We all know we value that which we work for.
When he texts you, don't answer him right away, but usually do answer in the same day. This paces the texting conversation. Occasionally do wait a day. If you pace him with your texting, you are in control. It prolongs the meeting, which is what you want to do. The longer he waits, the more excited he is going to be.
He may be telling his friends after a few days. "This girl texts me, and she seems interested, but I just don't know". If you can get him thinking like this, you got the sexual tension building. His imagination starts to do your work for you. A man's imagination is where the sexual tension is built.
Sexual tension is not really built with words, it's more about techniques, which you can learn more of here.
Friday, December 17, 2010
When He Tells You to Call or Text Him - What It Means
Those two words, "call me", or "text me", can screw with your head. If you like the guy, of course you want to believe this means he is interested in you and really wants you to call or text him. You may be thinking he wants you to call so he can make a date. Call me is what guys say often when ending a conversation. It's about the same as, talk to you later or see you around. It's usually said casually and you can bet if a guy says this, you don't have his interest sparked. So what do you do, should you call or text a guy if he asks?
When a guy says call me, usually it means he may find you attractive and if you call he may talk to you, but it's not something a guy says to a girl who he is very very interested in. If a guy is really interested, he won't ask you to call him or text him, he will be calling or texting you. The only exception to this is if you have been dating for a good while and he asks you to call him. If you have just met or started dating though, he is far from hooked on you yet.
A lot of women take this "call me" literally. They latch on and start calling and texting the guy. This makes them the one doing the pursuing. It tells the guy that you are way more invested into him than he is in you. He sees a woman ready to put the girlfriend crown on and often this causes him to stop all contact and run for the hills.
When a guy says call me, what he usually wants from you is not much. He can live with or without your call or text. If you do call or text, you will be setting yourself up as a girl on the back burner. That's what guys do with the girls that do the calling for the most part. They don't see them as a challenge and no challenge means you won't be girlfriend material more than likely.
If a guy really wants to get to know you, he will be the one doing the calling and texting, he won't be asking you to call him. When a guy tells you to call, the best thing you can do is don't. Let him wonder why you aren't so into him. This makes you more of a challenge and more attractive in his eyes. Less is more when it comes to calling men.
When a guy says call me, usually it means he may find you attractive and if you call he may talk to you, but it's not something a guy says to a girl who he is very very interested in. If a guy is really interested, he won't ask you to call him or text him, he will be calling or texting you. The only exception to this is if you have been dating for a good while and he asks you to call him. If you have just met or started dating though, he is far from hooked on you yet.
A lot of women take this "call me" literally. They latch on and start calling and texting the guy. This makes them the one doing the pursuing. It tells the guy that you are way more invested into him than he is in you. He sees a woman ready to put the girlfriend crown on and often this causes him to stop all contact and run for the hills.
When a guy says call me, what he usually wants from you is not much. He can live with or without your call or text. If you do call or text, you will be setting yourself up as a girl on the back burner. That's what guys do with the girls that do the calling for the most part. They don't see them as a challenge and no challenge means you won't be girlfriend material more than likely.
If a guy really wants to get to know you, he will be the one doing the calling and texting, he won't be asking you to call him. When a guy tells you to call, the best thing you can do is don't. Let him wonder why you aren't so into him. This makes you more of a challenge and more attractive in his eyes. Less is more when it comes to calling men.
Friday, December 3, 2010
Some Rules for Texting Guys
The rules for texting guys and calling guys are the same. Less is more for the most part. It is really the guys role to do the initiating, and if you are texting him more than he is texting you, you have broken a huge rule. Men really do like a bit of a challenge and if you are Miss Texting Queen, you are not offering up much of a challenge. You are depriving him of his role and it causes an imbalance in the relationship.
If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.
When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.
Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.
Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.
Learn more about texting and calling guys click here.
If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.
When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.
Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.
Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.
Learn more about texting and calling guys click here.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Texting Guys -Are You Killing His Attraction
If you have a new guy in your life and are in the early stages of courtship, chances are good you will be texting him and he will be texting you. Flirty texting is fun, but if you aren't careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on his attraction.
I am going to share a story with you here as an example as to how this can happen. The names have been changed of course. Bill met Cindy. They hit if off and exchanged phone numbers. They exchange a few texts, got together a few times and it's going good. Cindy sees this as he is into her. She starts texting him random things at random times. She texts him Good Morning or Good Night, she texts him that she misses him. She texts him and asks questions like when is she going to see him again. She even sends him texts about what she may be doing at any given point of the day.
Cindy wants Bill to know she is interested in him, she wants him to know she likes him. She thinks this will make him like her more. Wrong. Bill and I run into each other and he tells me Cindy is great, but he just isn't feeling it for her. What happened? Cindy killed the attraction by taking away the chase for Bill. Bill already knows she is into him, so what is left to work for? When texting guys, it is never a good idea to be too available or forth coming. Guys love mystery. If you share to much when texting a guy you like, you kill the mystery which kills his attraction.
Even if Bill is texting her that he misses her or wants to see her, she still should hold back. In the beginning a guy is living in the moment. The beginning is when you set the hook and build that attraction that leads to his attachment. If you are giving him everything too fast, he is going to get bored and eventually disappear. When texting a guy, hold back, be mysterious. Don't fall into the trap of girlfriend behavior before he has given you that title.
When you text him too often, offer up too much, he sees you like you are waving a sign around that says "Pick Me, Pick Me". Not attractive. He should be wondering if you are going to pick him instead. This builds the attraction, this gives him something to work for. Don't underestimate the power of attraction and how texting a guy can be a huge factor in this.
Does the guy you are seeing sometimes not reply to your texts or go days with no contact? If you are frustrated with this behavior, some simple texting techniques can turn this completely around for you if used wisely.
I am going to share a story with you here as an example as to how this can happen. The names have been changed of course. Bill met Cindy. They hit if off and exchanged phone numbers. They exchange a few texts, got together a few times and it's going good. Cindy sees this as he is into her. She starts texting him random things at random times. She texts him Good Morning or Good Night, she texts him that she misses him. She texts him and asks questions like when is she going to see him again. She even sends him texts about what she may be doing at any given point of the day.
Cindy wants Bill to know she is interested in him, she wants him to know she likes him. She thinks this will make him like her more. Wrong. Bill and I run into each other and he tells me Cindy is great, but he just isn't feeling it for her. What happened? Cindy killed the attraction by taking away the chase for Bill. Bill already knows she is into him, so what is left to work for? When texting guys, it is never a good idea to be too available or forth coming. Guys love mystery. If you share to much when texting a guy you like, you kill the mystery which kills his attraction.
Even if Bill is texting her that he misses her or wants to see her, she still should hold back. In the beginning a guy is living in the moment. The beginning is when you set the hook and build that attraction that leads to his attachment. If you are giving him everything too fast, he is going to get bored and eventually disappear. When texting a guy, hold back, be mysterious. Don't fall into the trap of girlfriend behavior before he has given you that title.
When you text him too often, offer up too much, he sees you like you are waving a sign around that says "Pick Me, Pick Me". Not attractive. He should be wondering if you are going to pick him instead. This builds the attraction, this gives him something to work for. Don't underestimate the power of attraction and how texting a guy can be a huge factor in this.
Does the guy you are seeing sometimes not reply to your texts or go days with no contact? If you are frustrated with this behavior, some simple texting techniques can turn this completely around for you if used wisely.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
How a Guy Stole My Heart Texting
I don't usually get so personal and God knows I don't know where this will go, but I wanted to share how words through texting can really build a deep attraction in a woman. An attraction so great, that she wouldn't care if you had one eye or looked like a troll. By the time I finally met this guy, I was so attracted to him, it was just down right nuts.
We were long distance and meeting was not feasible in the beginning, so the only form of communication we used were texts messages via phone and email. The messages he sent were not your ordinary lame messages like "how are you", or "Good Morning". They were well thought out and planned. They pushed my emotional buttons. If you can push a woman's buttons, you got it made. I feel in love and I literally hung on every text this guy sent.
He used silence and mystery to heighten my attraction. It was not always what he did say, but often what he didn't say. He left gaps for my imagination to fill in. A woman that is left to use her imagination can create all sorts of things. In my mind, he created attraction. Combining techniques with the words when texting a girl can be very powerful. Think about this, why can't we do the same when texting a guy.
Now I have texted and emailed with hundreds of guys and am here to say, none of them held a candle to this guy. He knew instinctively what got a women's attention. If a guy can do this texting with a woman, then why can't a woman create this kind of attraction with a guy using a lot of the same techniques.
Trust me you can. I have been swooned and have swooned men with my texting techniques. If you aren't using it as a huge part of your dating tools, you are underestimating the power of text messages in building attraction. How and what you text guys is critical in your dating life.
In case you are wondering, we are still long distance, we are still texting, and yes it's been a year and the attraction is still present. Where it will go, I don't know, but this guy has techniques and button pushing down to a science. I have since learned a lot from him and now I use his techniques to attract guys. It works, I promise.
We were long distance and meeting was not feasible in the beginning, so the only form of communication we used were texts messages via phone and email. The messages he sent were not your ordinary lame messages like "how are you", or "Good Morning". They were well thought out and planned. They pushed my emotional buttons. If you can push a woman's buttons, you got it made. I feel in love and I literally hung on every text this guy sent.
He used silence and mystery to heighten my attraction. It was not always what he did say, but often what he didn't say. He left gaps for my imagination to fill in. A woman that is left to use her imagination can create all sorts of things. In my mind, he created attraction. Combining techniques with the words when texting a girl can be very powerful. Think about this, why can't we do the same when texting a guy.
Now I have texted and emailed with hundreds of guys and am here to say, none of them held a candle to this guy. He knew instinctively what got a women's attention. If a guy can do this texting with a woman, then why can't a woman create this kind of attraction with a guy using a lot of the same techniques.
Trust me you can. I have been swooned and have swooned men with my texting techniques. If you aren't using it as a huge part of your dating tools, you are underestimating the power of text messages in building attraction. How and what you text guys is critical in your dating life.
In case you are wondering, we are still long distance, we are still texting, and yes it's been a year and the attraction is still present. Where it will go, I don't know, but this guy has techniques and button pushing down to a science. I have since learned a lot from him and now I use his techniques to attract guys. It works, I promise.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Flirty Texting Techniques That Make Him Want to See You
Men are attracted to mystery, allure, and a challenge. These can all be captured in your flirty text messages and build the attraction unbelievably. To create mystery you have to remember it is sometimes what you don't say that says the most. In other words when texting, don't always answer his questions direct, be evasive, but friendly. This is a very successful technique in building mystery.
Response time is also a good way to build up the attraction. if you always reply right back, you become predictable. Don't be predictable, wait before you reply. Depending on the message a couple of hours won't hurt. Then when he finally does get your reply, which of course is going to be light and flirty, you better believe he is going to pay it more attention. Presto, you got his full attention. Think long term satisfaction girls, not instant gratification.
Less is always more in texting. I have to mention the perpetual texter. The one that replies right back or texts all day long. Do you really think guys find this attractive? Maybe it's good for a quick fix for a few weeks, but trust me, it won't go long term. Flirty Texting Techniques do not include being a perpetual texter.
Playing on words is also a great way to send flirty text messages. You can be a little evil with this, yet he can't come right out and say you were being evil. For example, he texts you a yes or no question. Your answer "I moist say no". I guess you could call it subliminal talk to the penis. That really is exactly what it is. Learn to do this, and it gets his/her attention. Subtle yet sexy flirty text messages.
I have been swooned, and I have swooned in text messaging. Not many realize what a huge dating tool this has become. Get his attention, keep it.
Response time is also a good way to build up the attraction. if you always reply right back, you become predictable. Don't be predictable, wait before you reply. Depending on the message a couple of hours won't hurt. Then when he finally does get your reply, which of course is going to be light and flirty, you better believe he is going to pay it more attention. Presto, you got his full attention. Think long term satisfaction girls, not instant gratification.
Less is always more in texting. I have to mention the perpetual texter. The one that replies right back or texts all day long. Do you really think guys find this attractive? Maybe it's good for a quick fix for a few weeks, but trust me, it won't go long term. Flirty Texting Techniques do not include being a perpetual texter.
Playing on words is also a great way to send flirty text messages. You can be a little evil with this, yet he can't come right out and say you were being evil. For example, he texts you a yes or no question. Your answer "I moist say no". I guess you could call it subliminal talk to the penis. That really is exactly what it is. Learn to do this, and it gets his/her attention. Subtle yet sexy flirty text messages.
I have been swooned, and I have swooned in text messaging. Not many realize what a huge dating tool this has become. Get his attention, keep it.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
The Rules For Calling Men You Must Know to Keep Your Relationship Alive
Do you initiate the calls and texting? If you haven't heard from him do you ring him first? Do you ever engage in all day texting with him? There are rules for calling guys, these rules also carry over to texting guys as well
If you do or have done any of these things above, chances are you are too available and trust me, he will sense it. He will know you are making him a priority and he will not find you a challenge. Men love a challenge. That which comes easy is not appreciated or treasured. One of the rules for calling men is to let him do the initiating, let me explain why this is critical.
Think of his car. If he has an old beat up jalopy that he got for just a few hundred, he really puts no value in it. On the other hand if he has a really nice shiny sports car that he had to work long hard hours to afford, he sees it completely different. He washes it every weekend, parks it where no one can scratch or dent it. Most of all he sees it as very valuable. He doesn't want anyone else driving it. Same goes for the rules for calling men. If you are calling him, you will never be the pretty shiny car that he takes great care of.
This should be your mindset when handling phone calls or texts from your guy. If you make it too easy for him, you eventually become that jalopy. I am not saying ignore his calls, but a girl with self value does not revolve her life around a man nor depend on his contact for validation. A woman that values herself, will inspire a man to value her as well.
Go on with you life like he isn't your main focus. If you are busy, call him back when you can. If you haven't heard from him, don't call him, don't text him, don't email him, sit tight. Don't become glued to your phone. He will notice you are not calling and it increases your degree of value in his eyes. It gives him something to work for because if you aren't calling or texting, well he sees you as not quite available yet. This causes him to work harder.
How you handle calls and texts from the men in your life is critical in building the attraction in a relationship. Knowledge of how to handle the phone, your biggest tool in the dating pool is critical.
If you do or have done any of these things above, chances are you are too available and trust me, he will sense it. He will know you are making him a priority and he will not find you a challenge. Men love a challenge. That which comes easy is not appreciated or treasured. One of the rules for calling men is to let him do the initiating, let me explain why this is critical.
Think of his car. If he has an old beat up jalopy that he got for just a few hundred, he really puts no value in it. On the other hand if he has a really nice shiny sports car that he had to work long hard hours to afford, he sees it completely different. He washes it every weekend, parks it where no one can scratch or dent it. Most of all he sees it as very valuable. He doesn't want anyone else driving it. Same goes for the rules for calling men. If you are calling him, you will never be the pretty shiny car that he takes great care of.
This should be your mindset when handling phone calls or texts from your guy. If you make it too easy for him, you eventually become that jalopy. I am not saying ignore his calls, but a girl with self value does not revolve her life around a man nor depend on his contact for validation. A woman that values herself, will inspire a man to value her as well.
Go on with you life like he isn't your main focus. If you are busy, call him back when you can. If you haven't heard from him, don't call him, don't text him, don't email him, sit tight. Don't become glued to your phone. He will notice you are not calling and it increases your degree of value in his eyes. It gives him something to work for because if you aren't calling or texting, well he sees you as not quite available yet. This causes him to work harder.
How you handle calls and texts from the men in your life is critical in building the attraction in a relationship. Knowledge of how to handle the phone, your biggest tool in the dating pool is critical.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Texting Techniques Not to Use on Guys
This weekend I Googled texting guys and ran across a video two guys made about the ridiculous text messages they get from girls. Seems they have a problem with our lingo. They wonder why we text Heeeeyyyyy or Helloooooo instead of a simple "hey" or "hello". They went onto to conduct a fake job interview with one of the guys answering the questions talking like girls text. It was a bit out there, but funny and it brought it home. Apparently they see it as silly and not needed. So when texting a guy, remember, spell the words like they are, don't add letters to drive a point. It's falling on deaf ears.
Another thing is the many exclamation points and constant "lol"s. It seems they see this as silly also. Guys are not emotional creatures and this does not lock in attraction to them. Guys aren't triggered by emotional things, in fact, they probably don't even get it so don't waste your time.
When texting guys, just be short and to the point and witty. They don't really get into the cute mushy stuff. If they are texting you cute things, it's only because they think you like it, which be honest, we do.
Just wanted to share that information. To learn sure fire texting techniques that do work and will build attraction, click here.
Another thing is the many exclamation points and constant "lol"s. It seems they see this as silly also. Guys are not emotional creatures and this does not lock in attraction to them. Guys aren't triggered by emotional things, in fact, they probably don't even get it so don't waste your time.
When texting guys, just be short and to the point and witty. They don't really get into the cute mushy stuff. If they are texting you cute things, it's only because they think you like it, which be honest, we do.
Just wanted to share that information. To learn sure fire texting techniques that do work and will build attraction, click here.
Friday, September 10, 2010
He Was Texting Everyday and Then Stopped
Maybe he is a new love interest, or maybe you have been seeing him for a while. He was consistent, texting everyday and then it dwindles down to nothing. You text him, he either doesn't reply or is short. What is going on? Why do they do this.
It could be many reasons that's for sure. He could have met someone else, he could have just lost interest for no reason at all. Maybe he is just keeping you around on the back burner. One thing is for sure though, you are no longer on his list of priorities. If he was texting and then stopped, something is up, no doubt.
Often we get that projector rolling in our heads and over think and make excuses. Then we reach out and text them. Stop and think before you do this. Do you really want to make him a priority when he is obviously only making you an option. Bottom line, unless he is dead or in an accident there are no excuses for this behavior. If you text him asking questions about what happened he will see you as desperate. He will know he can come and go as he pleases and you will accept this behavior.
Do nothing, let him go. Don't text, don't call, don't arrange to bump into him somewhere. By doing nothing it shows you are not bothered, you are too busy to be bothered. Next time he does text, don't reply right away. Show him you are carefree and don't really need him. This increases your value in his eyes. Guys appreciate things of value.
Last of all, don't beat yourself up. This happens to all of us over and over again. Move forward to and save your effort for someone who is putting effort into you.
For rules about calling and texting guys and what to do and not to do click here.
It could be many reasons that's for sure. He could have met someone else, he could have just lost interest for no reason at all. Maybe he is just keeping you around on the back burner. One thing is for sure though, you are no longer on his list of priorities. If he was texting and then stopped, something is up, no doubt.
Often we get that projector rolling in our heads and over think and make excuses. Then we reach out and text them. Stop and think before you do this. Do you really want to make him a priority when he is obviously only making you an option. Bottom line, unless he is dead or in an accident there are no excuses for this behavior. If you text him asking questions about what happened he will see you as desperate. He will know he can come and go as he pleases and you will accept this behavior.
Do nothing, let him go. Don't text, don't call, don't arrange to bump into him somewhere. By doing nothing it shows you are not bothered, you are too busy to be bothered. Next time he does text, don't reply right away. Show him you are carefree and don't really need him. This increases your value in his eyes. Guys appreciate things of value.
Last of all, don't beat yourself up. This happens to all of us over and over again. Move forward to and save your effort for someone who is putting effort into you.
For rules about calling and texting guys and what to do and not to do click here.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Rules For Texting Guys
The rules for texting guys and calling guys are the same. Less is more for the most part. It is really the guys role to do the initiating, and if you are texting him more than he is texting you, you have broken a huge rule. Men really do like a bit of a challenge and if you are Miss Texting Queen, you are not offering up much of a challenge. You are depriving him of his role and it causes an imbalance in the relationship.
If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.
When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.
Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.
Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.
If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.
When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.
Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.
Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.
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