Showing posts with label how to text a guy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to text a guy. Show all posts
Friday, October 7, 2011
Friday, July 22, 2011
How to Text a Guy
We all have triggers in our lives. Triggers that make us react or feel a certain way. Triggers that cause us to crave or want certain things. If you are a smoker, you know how that cup of coffee makes you want a cigarette. The coffee without the cigarette just doesn't seem the same. Music can be a trigger. Ever heard a song and you were instantly taken back and you felt just how you felt at the time the song came out. I can hear the song Kung Fu Fighting and instantly feel like I did at the age of 13 skating at a skating rink holding the hand of my latest crush.
I dated a man once, and fell in love with him by the way. I had a ring tone assigned to him. Barracuda by Heart. Every time my phone rang with that tone, my heart beat a little faster. The man also just happened to be, I see in hindsight, very good at texting. It was never anything dull. He was always funny and always picking on me and pushing my buttons. It built attraction. The ring tone became a trigger to a euphoric feeling. He later dumped me and the trigger changed for me. If he happened to call after the break up, the sound of that tone caused me apprehension. Triggers are powerful. I had to change the ring tone to keep my sanity.
Texting can act as a trigger. It's up to you if you want that trigger to make him feel good or bring on apprehension or even feelings of nothing. If you text him to pick up milk on his way home, or ask what time is he coming home, or just mundane things, the sight of your name on his cell phone screen becomes a negative trigger. You can change that.
If on the other hand you send him racy messages, messages that confirm his masculinity (do so sparingly by the way), your name on his screen becomes a positive trigger. It triggers a good warm fuzzy feeling and only secures the emotional attraction.
If he happens to have a ring tone assigned to you the effect of triggers is even more powerful. If you have an assigned ring tone and you have been sending the mundane messages, your first step is to get that ring tone changes. It' will be far easier to follow this texting guide by Michael if you start out fresh. It's easier to set new triggers than to over ride old ones. You don't want the two to get crossed up.
Triggers are powerful. This is why texting can be so effective to bring back the romance and turn your clueless man or drifting man into a Prince Charming, romantic dream guy.
TEXT THE ROMANCE
Carolina Robin
I dated a man once, and fell in love with him by the way. I had a ring tone assigned to him. Barracuda by Heart. Every time my phone rang with that tone, my heart beat a little faster. The man also just happened to be, I see in hindsight, very good at texting. It was never anything dull. He was always funny and always picking on me and pushing my buttons. It built attraction. The ring tone became a trigger to a euphoric feeling. He later dumped me and the trigger changed for me. If he happened to call after the break up, the sound of that tone caused me apprehension. Triggers are powerful. I had to change the ring tone to keep my sanity.
Texting can act as a trigger. It's up to you if you want that trigger to make him feel good or bring on apprehension or even feelings of nothing. If you text him to pick up milk on his way home, or ask what time is he coming home, or just mundane things, the sight of your name on his cell phone screen becomes a negative trigger. You can change that.
If on the other hand you send him racy messages, messages that confirm his masculinity (do so sparingly by the way), your name on his screen becomes a positive trigger. It triggers a good warm fuzzy feeling and only secures the emotional attraction.
If he happens to have a ring tone assigned to you the effect of triggers is even more powerful. If you have an assigned ring tone and you have been sending the mundane messages, your first step is to get that ring tone changes. It' will be far easier to follow this texting guide by Michael if you start out fresh. It's easier to set new triggers than to over ride old ones. You don't want the two to get crossed up.
Triggers are powerful. This is why texting can be so effective to bring back the romance and turn your clueless man or drifting man into a Prince Charming, romantic dream guy.
TEXT THE ROMANCE
Carolina Robin
Monday, August 30, 2010
How to Text a Guy and Keep Him on His Toes
It's not what you say as much as it is your techniques. For example if you are the one initiating most of the texting conversations, you are probably killing the attraction unknowingly. It tells the guy you are more into him than he is into you and it gives him the power to dominate the terms and pace of the relationship. Let him put in most of the effort, especially in the beginning. Guys like a challenge, so don't be over eager. Let him think he will have to put in some wok to get your attention. If he isn't willing, you don't want him anyway.
Men don't respond to words, so what you say does not carry as much weight as you may think. Guys have been tuning out our words forever, that is unless we say something to their penis, that is a different story. All of a sudden they are on full alert. Don't do this however. You don't want them replying to you for the wrong reason. You want them to be hooked before you go there. So when a guy texts you, don't be to anxious to reply. Wait a while. If you reply immediately every time you become predictable. Be there, but just out of reach. You can do this by varying the time it takes you to reply. He will never be able to predict if it will be 15 minutes or hours. When he does hear from you he will be relieved and this builds up anticipation which builds attraction. When learning the how to text a guy techniques, remember, anticipation is powerful.
If he tries to engage in a marathon texting event, don't go there. That is giving him too much too soon and will not keep him on his toes. One sure tip for cutting off a conversation is the old "lol". If he says something humorous, send the old "lol". It does not really warrant a reply and it can end the conversation. When texting a guy, leave him wanting more. Don't give it all to him at once. If you do participate in a marathon texting session, he tends to start thinking you don't have much of a life and he assumes you are really into him. Don't let him get too comfortable to fast. Marathon texting should only be done on occasion. Just give him a taste of what it would be like to have more of your attention. Marathon texting is not high on the list of how to text a guy.
Think about how it always seems that the one you don't really like texts you all the time while the guy you really like seems to not be so reliable. Why is this? Do you treat the one you don't like so much differently? I imagine you don't jump to reply to his messages and you don't find yourself constantly checking you phone. You certainly don't have your phone glued to your person waiting on his text. Could it be that is why he is so into you, because you treat him with a nonchalant, don't care attitude. To balance this out, text the guy you really like as if he was the one you didn't really like. It adds mystery and that to a guy is pretty appealing. Less is more when in doubt of how to text a guy.
I have a lot of guy friends. I have been out with them and girls are texting them constantly. They show each other the messages and usually don't speak to highly of the perpetual texter. Oh but when they send a text to a girl and she doesn't jump right away, I have seen how they constantly check their phones, sometimes even send a second text. That girl is keeping them on their toes for sure.
Learn how to use text messaging to keep your guy on his toes and into you. The majority of women are clueless how powerful this can be to heighten a guys attraction level. To Learn to master this skill and keep his head spinning click here.
Men don't respond to words, so what you say does not carry as much weight as you may think. Guys have been tuning out our words forever, that is unless we say something to their penis, that is a different story. All of a sudden they are on full alert. Don't do this however. You don't want them replying to you for the wrong reason. You want them to be hooked before you go there. So when a guy texts you, don't be to anxious to reply. Wait a while. If you reply immediately every time you become predictable. Be there, but just out of reach. You can do this by varying the time it takes you to reply. He will never be able to predict if it will be 15 minutes or hours. When he does hear from you he will be relieved and this builds up anticipation which builds attraction. When learning the how to text a guy techniques, remember, anticipation is powerful.
If he tries to engage in a marathon texting event, don't go there. That is giving him too much too soon and will not keep him on his toes. One sure tip for cutting off a conversation is the old "lol". If he says something humorous, send the old "lol". It does not really warrant a reply and it can end the conversation. When texting a guy, leave him wanting more. Don't give it all to him at once. If you do participate in a marathon texting session, he tends to start thinking you don't have much of a life and he assumes you are really into him. Don't let him get too comfortable to fast. Marathon texting should only be done on occasion. Just give him a taste of what it would be like to have more of your attention. Marathon texting is not high on the list of how to text a guy.
Think about how it always seems that the one you don't really like texts you all the time while the guy you really like seems to not be so reliable. Why is this? Do you treat the one you don't like so much differently? I imagine you don't jump to reply to his messages and you don't find yourself constantly checking you phone. You certainly don't have your phone glued to your person waiting on his text. Could it be that is why he is so into you, because you treat him with a nonchalant, don't care attitude. To balance this out, text the guy you really like as if he was the one you didn't really like. It adds mystery and that to a guy is pretty appealing. Less is more when in doubt of how to text a guy.
I have a lot of guy friends. I have been out with them and girls are texting them constantly. They show each other the messages and usually don't speak to highly of the perpetual texter. Oh but when they send a text to a girl and she doesn't jump right away, I have seen how they constantly check their phones, sometimes even send a second text. That girl is keeping them on their toes for sure.
Learn how to use text messaging to keep your guy on his toes and into you. The majority of women are clueless how powerful this can be to heighten a guys attraction level. To Learn to master this skill and keep his head spinning click here.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Calling and Texting Men
First thing to remember is if you are texting or calling men, you are giving them power over you. You want to be the one with the power. Now I know this is a hard concept to grasp, but if you are so readily available, you take the mystery out of it. You are predictable and he may be predicting that you are going to become an emotional needy girlfriend.
When you make that call or text first you are sending negative messages. What he is hearing is that you are needy, you are into him and he does not have to worry about you. You will be there when he is ready to talk to you. You want him to wonder if you really are all that into him. This will propel him to make contact, which is what you want. Honestly, when that phone does ring or you do get that text that he sent first, don't you feel like jumping for joy. It just does not feel as good if you had to do the initiating.
The way you reply to his text messages is very important. Be upbeat, funny and make him laugh. If there is and inside joke between the two of you, play on it. This will make him associate good warm feelings when he calls or texts and he will do it more often. If you are the one doing the chasing, he will likely lose interest.
The way we handle these calls and texts can make or break a relationship. Wouldn't it be great to know exactly what to do and say and when to do it? If it could improve your dating and relationships wouldn't it be worth it? Do you want to be the girl that makes him roll his eyes in agitation every time the phone rings? I am sure you answered that no. You can create tons of attraction and move a relationship forward just by knowing how to handle calling men. Don't you want to be the one who is being pursued and not doing the chasing. Wouldn't it feel good to relax and just know he is going to call.
When to text and call a man is just one of the many things that make up the dynamics in a relationship. There is an art to balancing these dynamics. I have joined one of the thousands and thousands of women who have learned to date with out drama and get what we deserve in relationships with men.
When you make that call or text first you are sending negative messages. What he is hearing is that you are needy, you are into him and he does not have to worry about you. You will be there when he is ready to talk to you. You want him to wonder if you really are all that into him. This will propel him to make contact, which is what you want. Honestly, when that phone does ring or you do get that text that he sent first, don't you feel like jumping for joy. It just does not feel as good if you had to do the initiating.
The way you reply to his text messages is very important. Be upbeat, funny and make him laugh. If there is and inside joke between the two of you, play on it. This will make him associate good warm feelings when he calls or texts and he will do it more often. If you are the one doing the chasing, he will likely lose interest.
The way we handle these calls and texts can make or break a relationship. Wouldn't it be great to know exactly what to do and say and when to do it? If it could improve your dating and relationships wouldn't it be worth it? Do you want to be the girl that makes him roll his eyes in agitation every time the phone rings? I am sure you answered that no. You can create tons of attraction and move a relationship forward just by knowing how to handle calling men. Don't you want to be the one who is being pursued and not doing the chasing. Wouldn't it feel good to relax and just know he is going to call.
When to text and call a man is just one of the many things that make up the dynamics in a relationship. There is an art to balancing these dynamics. I have joined one of the thousands and thousands of women who have learned to date with out drama and get what we deserve in relationships with men.
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