Sexting is a term widely becoming known as flirting with text messages. This new dating tool is rapidly taking the dating world by swarm. Sexting has evolved in the last few years as can be proven in the search engines and the media.
In 2005 Sexting was something common among teenagers. There was a lot of controversy with this topic. New laws had to be put in place regarding child pornography. If you googled this term up to about a year ago, that was the only information to be had on Sexting. Texting wasn't even around then, let alone sexting or flirting with text messages.
6 months ago had you done a search on Sexting, Wikipedia would not have even shown up. Now if you google it, Wikipedia is in first place with the history of sexting. The definition of it does not include flirting with text messages or it's us as a dating tool, but you can bet it will.
The cell phone carriers are even taking advantage of texting to be about flirting with text and dating. Have you seen the commercial with the 2 guys in the ski lift. The guy on the right is texting the guy on the lefts ex girlfriend and securing a date. The messages are going instantly and he has a date in about 20 seconds. It ends with the guy on the left throwing his friend's phone off the ski lift.
Google sexting now and starting on page two, the results are about flriting with text messages. There are blogs, websites and now guides you can purchase about the texting and online game. It's generally geared towards men, but the woman aren't far behind. They are fast learning they have to be able to keep up when it comes to texting.
The fact of the matter is this. Sexting or Flirting with text messages is a great dating tool. If you use some good techniques you can escalate your love life to much higher levels. It can build and enhance attraction if used the right way.
I have had some skilled guys text me, they could have me about to dye to see me. I have also had those guys that bored me to tears. If you aren't using texting as sexting, you may get left behind. Allmost all women text and they expect men to know how to use this means of communication. I roll my eyes when a man tells me he doesn't text. I think he must be an antique or something and I am immediately disappointed. if you aren't sending flirty text messages, you are missing the boat.
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Why He Texts and Doesn't Call
What's up with men and texting these days? Did they forget how to use the phone. Truth is, this has become their number one dating tool and some of them have planned tactics when it comes to texting.
Texting is easy. For men, it means less chance of feeling the rejection. They get to plan what the say and think it out. Some men these days rarely use the phone. Sad but true. A lot of the women are adapting to this. You see women everywhere with their phones texting. In grocery stores, department stores, walking or heaven forbid, driving. It's simply easier, less risky than a phone call. No one on the other end to tell you they are busy or it's not a good time. Almost zero chance of rejection.
What a lot of women don't know is these men are in with the dating gurus. There are a lot of programs out there that teach what they call an online and texting game. It's getting more and more common. In a couple of years, it's going to be common knowledge for men that they can up their texting game and attract more women. When it comes to texting men, many of them are way ahead of you here.
The truth of the matter is these taught techniques actually do work on women. They teach men how to be witty, funny and they teach them tactics that will increase your attraction. When it comes to men and texting, they are harmlessly for the most part just trying to attract more women. You really can't blame them for that.
Now some of these programs teach some techniques that aren't so nice. There is a tactic that guys use to get you to chase them. It's sort of like cat and mouse. They just stop texting you for a few days after coming on strong. Think about it, it works more times than not. The woman is used to hearing from him, then he just stops. It's human instinct to go after him.
Then when she initiates, he plays a few more games on her. If you aren't familiar with these techniques, they can hit you blind sided. Her you are on a roller coaster ride and he is just trying to get your attention. Most times, he does.
So knowing these tactics are going to become more and more common, it's fair to say you should, as a woman be prepared with a few tactics of your own to stay one step ahead. These guys are onto something, texting if done correctly, can increase attraction. So why not play the game with them and be better at it. If men are taking lessons to learn how to text women, then we need to be prepared. We need to learn how to text men in return.
Texting is the way of the future. The more prominent is becomes, the more of these guides you will see popping up. Some are very good. Attraction can build to some pretty intense levels in text messaging. The guys are jumping on this, don't you think you should catch up? http://www.therulesforcallingmen.com
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Texting is easy. For men, it means less chance of feeling the rejection. They get to plan what the say and think it out. Some men these days rarely use the phone. Sad but true. A lot of the women are adapting to this. You see women everywhere with their phones texting. In grocery stores, department stores, walking or heaven forbid, driving. It's simply easier, less risky than a phone call. No one on the other end to tell you they are busy or it's not a good time. Almost zero chance of rejection.
What a lot of women don't know is these men are in with the dating gurus. There are a lot of programs out there that teach what they call an online and texting game. It's getting more and more common. In a couple of years, it's going to be common knowledge for men that they can up their texting game and attract more women. When it comes to texting men, many of them are way ahead of you here.
The truth of the matter is these taught techniques actually do work on women. They teach men how to be witty, funny and they teach them tactics that will increase your attraction. When it comes to men and texting, they are harmlessly for the most part just trying to attract more women. You really can't blame them for that.
Now some of these programs teach some techniques that aren't so nice. There is a tactic that guys use to get you to chase them. It's sort of like cat and mouse. They just stop texting you for a few days after coming on strong. Think about it, it works more times than not. The woman is used to hearing from him, then he just stops. It's human instinct to go after him.
Then when she initiates, he plays a few more games on her. If you aren't familiar with these techniques, they can hit you blind sided. Her you are on a roller coaster ride and he is just trying to get your attention. Most times, he does.
So knowing these tactics are going to become more and more common, it's fair to say you should, as a woman be prepared with a few tactics of your own to stay one step ahead. These guys are onto something, texting if done correctly, can increase attraction. So why not play the game with them and be better at it. If men are taking lessons to learn how to text women, then we need to be prepared. We need to learn how to text men in return.
Texting is the way of the future. The more prominent is becomes, the more of these guides you will see popping up. Some are very good. Attraction can build to some pretty intense levels in text messaging. The guys are jumping on this, don't you think you should catch up? http://www.therulesforcallingmen.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6046419
Monday, March 28, 2011
Building Sexual Tension Texting Guys
This is really simple. It's sort of goes parallel with playing hard to get. It's about making him wait a bit before you give into his advances. Anticipation and building up to meeting a guy actually is sexual tension.
How do you do this, build this sexual tension. If he is texting you, asking you questions, don't always answer him so readily. Maybe even answer his question with a question. Inspire him to be creative to get your attention and your time. Now by all means, keep flirting, tossing him crumbs so he will know you could be interested.
It's sort of about keeping him guessing. He won't know if you are into him or not, but he thinks you could be. Think about playing the slot machine. It's the little wins that keep you playing in hopes of winning the jackpot.
You don't want to do this too long as he may give up. A week is good, if he is a patient sort, maybe a little longer. You want him to get excited about meeting you. If you meet a guy right off the bat, he isn't going to be that excited. He will be excited more if he had to work for it. We all know we value that which we work for.
When he texts you, don't answer him right away, but usually do answer in the same day. This paces the texting conversation. Occasionally do wait a day. If you pace him with your texting, you are in control. It prolongs the meeting, which is what you want to do. The longer he waits, the more excited he is going to be.
He may be telling his friends after a few days. "This girl texts me, and she seems interested, but I just don't know". If you can get him thinking like this, you got the sexual tension building. His imagination starts to do your work for you. A man's imagination is where the sexual tension is built.
Sexual tension is not really built with words, it's more about techniques, which you can learn more of here.
How do you do this, build this sexual tension. If he is texting you, asking you questions, don't always answer him so readily. Maybe even answer his question with a question. Inspire him to be creative to get your attention and your time. Now by all means, keep flirting, tossing him crumbs so he will know you could be interested.
It's sort of about keeping him guessing. He won't know if you are into him or not, but he thinks you could be. Think about playing the slot machine. It's the little wins that keep you playing in hopes of winning the jackpot.
You don't want to do this too long as he may give up. A week is good, if he is a patient sort, maybe a little longer. You want him to get excited about meeting you. If you meet a guy right off the bat, he isn't going to be that excited. He will be excited more if he had to work for it. We all know we value that which we work for.
When he texts you, don't answer him right away, but usually do answer in the same day. This paces the texting conversation. Occasionally do wait a day. If you pace him with your texting, you are in control. It prolongs the meeting, which is what you want to do. The longer he waits, the more excited he is going to be.
He may be telling his friends after a few days. "This girl texts me, and she seems interested, but I just don't know". If you can get him thinking like this, you got the sexual tension building. His imagination starts to do your work for you. A man's imagination is where the sexual tension is built.
Sexual tension is not really built with words, it's more about techniques, which you can learn more of here.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Should I Text Him First
Should you text a guy first? Most of you that follow my blogs or articles know I am not an advocate of this, but nothing ventured nothing gained. Maybe he is shy, maybe he doesn't know if you are interested. If you are thinking this way and you feel you must text him, go ahead, but follow these guidelines below.
Text him once. Be witty and light. Be fun. Don't send a lame good morning or how is your day. If you can't be creative, step away from the phone. You don't want to come across as dull or boring. You want to grab his attention.
Second don't engage in a texting marathon. If he replies and appears to be happy to hear from you, a couple texts back and forth is enough. He now knows you are interested, stop while you are ahead. When texting guys, less is more. If you can leave him with a positive feeling, and don't go into overkill, chances are he may want to talk with you again.
If the guy doesn't text you back, don't text him again. You just showed him your interest, anything more will come across as desperate.
A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine had a guy give her his number. He put it in her phone. He did not get her number. Now we all say this means he isn't interested, but that is not always the case. She had to text him first. There was no other way to see if he was or was not interested. She alluded to something they talked about and hit the send button. He texted her back immediately.
She did not engage him in marathon texting. She remained mysterious and she kept him guessing. She ended the conversation quickly. Next day he started texting her. Fast forward a week and they had their first date.
There are times when texting first in appropriate. As long as you don't become a pest and chase him, it's all good when texting a guy first. Be sensible about it and play it cool.
Some guys need a little encouragement. Text him first by tossing him the ball and see if he serves it back, but never serve it twice if he isn't returning.
Text him once. Be witty and light. Be fun. Don't send a lame good morning or how is your day. If you can't be creative, step away from the phone. You don't want to come across as dull or boring. You want to grab his attention.
Second don't engage in a texting marathon. If he replies and appears to be happy to hear from you, a couple texts back and forth is enough. He now knows you are interested, stop while you are ahead. When texting guys, less is more. If you can leave him with a positive feeling, and don't go into overkill, chances are he may want to talk with you again.
If the guy doesn't text you back, don't text him again. You just showed him your interest, anything more will come across as desperate.
A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine had a guy give her his number. He put it in her phone. He did not get her number. Now we all say this means he isn't interested, but that is not always the case. She had to text him first. There was no other way to see if he was or was not interested. She alluded to something they talked about and hit the send button. He texted her back immediately.
She did not engage him in marathon texting. She remained mysterious and she kept him guessing. She ended the conversation quickly. Next day he started texting her. Fast forward a week and they had their first date.
There are times when texting first in appropriate. As long as you don't become a pest and chase him, it's all good when texting a guy first. Be sensible about it and play it cool.
Some guys need a little encouragement. Text him first by tossing him the ball and see if he serves it back, but never serve it twice if he isn't returning.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Are You Texting Him to Death?
I am writing this topic because just recently I was dating a text-aholic. It made me think about some women I know that text their boyfriends or even new boyfriends relentlessly. This guy he did that. At first it was sweet. You know how it is when you first meet someone that interests you. You have those rose colored glasses on.
Fast forward a few of weeks. I could set my clock by this guy. One in the morning saying the exact same thing every single day. Then a call mid morning, a text at lunch, one in the afternoon, a call at night, and a goodnight text. I almost lost my mind. I would tell him, don't get me wrong, but it didn't help. I hated it, he was a nice guy.
Anyway, he would slow down for a day or so, and then right back at it. I told him many times, so finally, I let him go. It was more to it than how often he texted me and how it annoyed me. It was about me telling him and him not paying attention nor respecting my wishes. No discussion of compromise on this issue. He walked right over my boundaries. This is grounds for dumping in my book, it's my #1 deal breaker.
So ladies, remember this when you want to text a man to death. It kills all attraction and is annoying as crap. Less is More!
Fast forward a few of weeks. I could set my clock by this guy. One in the morning saying the exact same thing every single day. Then a call mid morning, a text at lunch, one in the afternoon, a call at night, and a goodnight text. I almost lost my mind. I would tell him, don't get me wrong, but it didn't help. I hated it, he was a nice guy.
Anyway, he would slow down for a day or so, and then right back at it. I told him many times, so finally, I let him go. It was more to it than how often he texted me and how it annoyed me. It was about me telling him and him not paying attention nor respecting my wishes. No discussion of compromise on this issue. He walked right over my boundaries. This is grounds for dumping in my book, it's my #1 deal breaker.
So ladies, remember this when you want to text a man to death. It kills all attraction and is annoying as crap. Less is More!
Thursday, February 3, 2011
He Texts Me All The Time
You know the drill. You meet a guy. You never know if he is going to call you or text you or not. Some get your number and never call. Some call you a month later. Then there is the guy that texts you but never asks you out, but that is an entirely different topic.
So, you met a good guy, and he did call or text. You think, finally. Then the phone goes off again, another text. You think oh this is nice. Fast forward a couple of days of all day texts conversations and now you are thinking, wow, he must be clingy and needy.
Not necessarily so, though it is possible. A lot of guys really are clueless. They don't really know how to pursue a quality woman. They are used to needy women, because face it, there are a lot of drama queens out there. He may very well be treating you like the woman before you expected to be treated.
So assuming you are going to give him the benefit of the doubt and give him a chance, you must slow him down for your own sanity. You are probably worried you may hurt his feelings. Don't, he is a grown man.
So to slow him down and get him at your pace, you have to understand and accept, you are in control here. It really is the woman's job to set the pace of the relationship. If you are answering his every text, well you are telling him it's alright with you to come barreling out the gate full speed ahead.
First step is to stop answering his texts promptly. If he texts you in the morning, don't reply until after lunch. If he texts you in the meantime to inquire if you got his text, send a short reply. Tell him you are buys at work, you didn't have you phone with you. This will start setting the pace.
Keep your answers brief. If he texts you Good Morning, simply send back a smiley face. Not much to reply to a smiley face. If he keeps it up, shorten your replies and take you sweet time.
Also not every text requires an answer. If it's not a question you don't have to answer him, you aren't obligated to him and you certainly don't owe him. If he questions you about this, innocently say, well I didn't know a reply was needed to that text.
If it bothers him and he thinks you aren't interested, he will ask you. Then is your moment to tell him. You don't do this via text. You do this on the phone or in person. Light and breezy like, just tell him you don't carry your phone around on a clip on your belt. Sometimes it's in your purse. Sometimes you are just busy.
If you are engaging in a constant text conversation with a man it also shows him you are available. Do you really want to be jumping every time he calls? Do you want to set up that expectation that you will always be there answering him instantly? This backfires down the road. Nothing worse than being out with your friends and having your guy text you all night long.
By setting the pace, you will be way more mysterious and way more attractive if you keep him at bay. If he is texting you all the time, slow him down. A slow simmer is so much tastier than something brought to a rapid boil. Slow him down.
Texting is your absolute biggest dating tool. You can flirt, build attraction and get a man's attention in a bit way if you know the right techniques.
So, you met a good guy, and he did call or text. You think, finally. Then the phone goes off again, another text. You think oh this is nice. Fast forward a couple of days of all day texts conversations and now you are thinking, wow, he must be clingy and needy.
Not necessarily so, though it is possible. A lot of guys really are clueless. They don't really know how to pursue a quality woman. They are used to needy women, because face it, there are a lot of drama queens out there. He may very well be treating you like the woman before you expected to be treated.
So assuming you are going to give him the benefit of the doubt and give him a chance, you must slow him down for your own sanity. You are probably worried you may hurt his feelings. Don't, he is a grown man.
So to slow him down and get him at your pace, you have to understand and accept, you are in control here. It really is the woman's job to set the pace of the relationship. If you are answering his every text, well you are telling him it's alright with you to come barreling out the gate full speed ahead.
First step is to stop answering his texts promptly. If he texts you in the morning, don't reply until after lunch. If he texts you in the meantime to inquire if you got his text, send a short reply. Tell him you are buys at work, you didn't have you phone with you. This will start setting the pace.
Keep your answers brief. If he texts you Good Morning, simply send back a smiley face. Not much to reply to a smiley face. If he keeps it up, shorten your replies and take you sweet time.
Also not every text requires an answer. If it's not a question you don't have to answer him, you aren't obligated to him and you certainly don't owe him. If he questions you about this, innocently say, well I didn't know a reply was needed to that text.
If it bothers him and he thinks you aren't interested, he will ask you. Then is your moment to tell him. You don't do this via text. You do this on the phone or in person. Light and breezy like, just tell him you don't carry your phone around on a clip on your belt. Sometimes it's in your purse. Sometimes you are just busy.
If you are engaging in a constant text conversation with a man it also shows him you are available. Do you really want to be jumping every time he calls? Do you want to set up that expectation that you will always be there answering him instantly? This backfires down the road. Nothing worse than being out with your friends and having your guy text you all night long.
By setting the pace, you will be way more mysterious and way more attractive if you keep him at bay. If he is texting you all the time, slow him down. A slow simmer is so much tastier than something brought to a rapid boil. Slow him down.
Texting is your absolute biggest dating tool. You can flirt, build attraction and get a man's attention in a bit way if you know the right techniques.
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