In order to stand out from the other girls you gotta be different. In order to do this, you need to know what it is they are doing. I will list a few below.
1. They text the guy first
2. They engage in all day texting marathons
3. They exaggerate too many letters or use too much punctuation. Such as adding a dozen O's on the end of hello followed by 8 exclamation points.
4. If the guy doesn't reply to texts, they text again.
5. They are boring
The above are just a few things that most girls do. The main thing here is you don't want to come across as too available or as if you are glued to your phone. If you always reply right away, are always available and have time to engage in those all day marathons, he won't see you as very valuable. He is not having to work to get your attention. This is not good and it a sure way to kill the attraction of a guy you just met.
When texting a guy you just met, always let him send the first text. Reply, but don't jump and do it instantly, let him wait. You are a busy girl right? You aren't just sitting around waiting on him to call or text. Meet him with wit and humor but some healthy resistance. If you can end the conversation first, all the better. It doesn't feel as good to be the last one to send the text and he not reply.
Never when texting a guy you just met do you want to lay any of your cards on the table. You don't want to shower him with compliments or let on that you are into him yet. So often girls screw up right here with texting. They start laying it on thick, investing in the guy way before he has shown he is willing to return that investment. You might as well text him "Pick me, Pick me, please". Let him lead, you follow his pace with a little holding back.
Guys like mystery. They value the things they have to work for. When texting a guy you just met, if you want to get and keep his attention, be elusive, mysterious and flirty. Stand out from the other girls.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Monday, September 27, 2010
Texting Techniques Not to Use on Guys
This weekend I Googled texting guys and ran across a video two guys made about the ridiculous text messages they get from girls. Seems they have a problem with our lingo. They wonder why we text Heeeeyyyyy or Helloooooo instead of a simple "hey" or "hello". They went onto to conduct a fake job interview with one of the guys answering the questions talking like girls text. It was a bit out there, but funny and it brought it home. Apparently they see it as silly and not needed. So when texting a guy, remember, spell the words like they are, don't add letters to drive a point. It's falling on deaf ears.
Another thing is the many exclamation points and constant "lol"s. It seems they see this as silly also. Guys are not emotional creatures and this does not lock in attraction to them. Guys aren't triggered by emotional things, in fact, they probably don't even get it so don't waste your time.
When texting guys, just be short and to the point and witty. They don't really get into the cute mushy stuff. If they are texting you cute things, it's only because they think you like it, which be honest, we do.
Just wanted to share that information. To learn sure fire texting techniques that do work and will build attraction, click here.
Another thing is the many exclamation points and constant "lol"s. It seems they see this as silly also. Guys are not emotional creatures and this does not lock in attraction to them. Guys aren't triggered by emotional things, in fact, they probably don't even get it so don't waste your time.
When texting guys, just be short and to the point and witty. They don't really get into the cute mushy stuff. If they are texting you cute things, it's only because they think you like it, which be honest, we do.
Just wanted to share that information. To learn sure fire texting techniques that do work and will build attraction, click here.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Stop Texting Him Before He Runs for The Hills
First off, if he is texting you, yes you should reply. It's the polite thing to do. If on the other hand you are the one initiating all or most of the texting communication, you might want to reconsider. You are investing way more into him than he is you and the relationship will not be balanced. You are training him that you are willing to do all of the work to keep it going. Not a good thing at all. It would be wise on your part to stop texting him first. Let him come to you.
The reason you want him to come to you is because for one girl, you are worth it. You should not have to be the one to keep it going. You are the prize, you are valuable. If you don't stop texting him all the time, he will not see you as valuable. He will see you as available, perhaps easy, and maybe even needy. Not attractive qualities and not qualities that increase your value in his eyes.
Ever heard the phrase "We want what we can't have". If you are texting him all the time, guess what? He knows he can have you anytime. Where is the challenge in that? You might as well jump up and down screaming "Pick me, Pick me!". Stop texting him, let him text you. You reply flirty and evasive. Be the girl who he just can't quite have. This is crucial in building the attraction, especially in the beginning of dating.
In Summary, don't be a perpetual texter. Don't be the girl that while he is busy or out with the guys who constantly texts him. Stop texting him and let him text you. Let him wonder what you are doing. He will be rolling his eyes and sharing this information with his pals. This does not show you in a good light. Less is more, always.
The reason you want him to come to you is because for one girl, you are worth it. You should not have to be the one to keep it going. You are the prize, you are valuable. If you don't stop texting him all the time, he will not see you as valuable. He will see you as available, perhaps easy, and maybe even needy. Not attractive qualities and not qualities that increase your value in his eyes.
Ever heard the phrase "We want what we can't have". If you are texting him all the time, guess what? He knows he can have you anytime. Where is the challenge in that? You might as well jump up and down screaming "Pick me, Pick me!". Stop texting him, let him text you. You reply flirty and evasive. Be the girl who he just can't quite have. This is crucial in building the attraction, especially in the beginning of dating.
In Summary, don't be a perpetual texter. Don't be the girl that while he is busy or out with the guys who constantly texts him. Stop texting him and let him text you. Let him wonder what you are doing. He will be rolling his eyes and sharing this information with his pals. This does not show you in a good light. Less is more, always.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Should I Text Him
A few weeks ago I went out with my best single girlfriend. She met this great guy. He seemed so into her. They had an amazing connection. They danced, talked, laughed and at the end of the night he got her number. Hmmmm, what happened, he didn't call. Three days later she calls me and asks, "should I text him?" My answer, "No".
You may be thinking well what will it hurt. For one thing about this. You are sitting there wondering and stressing. What is he doing? Do you really think he is sitting at home wondering. Is he thinking oh my, should I call her, should I text her? No he is not. If you text him he is going to know immediately that you are way more into him than he is into you. When it comes to texting guys, less is more.
Now 10 days go by. She held firm to my advice. Guess what? Yep, he called. Men are getting used to being texted by women. They are getting used to women doing thier work for them because so many act on their insecurities and fall into this trap. When a woman is not so anxious he finds her more attractive. He thinks this one is different, she doesn't have to chase me. Perhaps someone is chasing her. Competitiveness will drive a man into action. Think about how he views you next time you ask the question, should I text him.
When you start texting a guy who is not texting you first you might as well wave a flag that says "pick me, pick me". How attractive is that? It's always best to mirror his level of commitment. If he is texting you, sure text him back, but if he is not, step away from the phone. By texting often and first, you are telling him he can just sit back, you aren't going in where. He already has you under wraps. What happens is that you fall into the role of the back burner girl. So when you ask, should I text him, try to hold out.
How you handle that dating tool called the cell phone can make or break your dating life. It is a very powerful tool indeed. When it comes to texting guys, learn to do it right. Learn to send his level of attraction through the roof by what you do and don't do with that often dangerous tool, the cell phone.
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You may be thinking well what will it hurt. For one thing about this. You are sitting there wondering and stressing. What is he doing? Do you really think he is sitting at home wondering. Is he thinking oh my, should I call her, should I text her? No he is not. If you text him he is going to know immediately that you are way more into him than he is into you. When it comes to texting guys, less is more.
Now 10 days go by. She held firm to my advice. Guess what? Yep, he called. Men are getting used to being texted by women. They are getting used to women doing thier work for them because so many act on their insecurities and fall into this trap. When a woman is not so anxious he finds her more attractive. He thinks this one is different, she doesn't have to chase me. Perhaps someone is chasing her. Competitiveness will drive a man into action. Think about how he views you next time you ask the question, should I text him.
When you start texting a guy who is not texting you first you might as well wave a flag that says "pick me, pick me". How attractive is that? It's always best to mirror his level of commitment. If he is texting you, sure text him back, but if he is not, step away from the phone. By texting often and first, you are telling him he can just sit back, you aren't going in where. He already has you under wraps. What happens is that you fall into the role of the back burner girl. So when you ask, should I text him, try to hold out.
How you handle that dating tool called the cell phone can make or break your dating life. It is a very powerful tool indeed. When it comes to texting guys, learn to do it right. Learn to send his level of attraction through the roof by what you do and don't do with that often dangerous tool, the cell phone.
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Friday, September 10, 2010
He Was Texting Everyday and Then Stopped
Maybe he is a new love interest, or maybe you have been seeing him for a while. He was consistent, texting everyday and then it dwindles down to nothing. You text him, he either doesn't reply or is short. What is going on? Why do they do this.
It could be many reasons that's for sure. He could have met someone else, he could have just lost interest for no reason at all. Maybe he is just keeping you around on the back burner. One thing is for sure though, you are no longer on his list of priorities. If he was texting and then stopped, something is up, no doubt.
Often we get that projector rolling in our heads and over think and make excuses. Then we reach out and text them. Stop and think before you do this. Do you really want to make him a priority when he is obviously only making you an option. Bottom line, unless he is dead or in an accident there are no excuses for this behavior. If you text him asking questions about what happened he will see you as desperate. He will know he can come and go as he pleases and you will accept this behavior.
Do nothing, let him go. Don't text, don't call, don't arrange to bump into him somewhere. By doing nothing it shows you are not bothered, you are too busy to be bothered. Next time he does text, don't reply right away. Show him you are carefree and don't really need him. This increases your value in his eyes. Guys appreciate things of value.
Last of all, don't beat yourself up. This happens to all of us over and over again. Move forward to and save your effort for someone who is putting effort into you.
For rules about calling and texting guys and what to do and not to do click here.
It could be many reasons that's for sure. He could have met someone else, he could have just lost interest for no reason at all. Maybe he is just keeping you around on the back burner. One thing is for sure though, you are no longer on his list of priorities. If he was texting and then stopped, something is up, no doubt.
Often we get that projector rolling in our heads and over think and make excuses. Then we reach out and text them. Stop and think before you do this. Do you really want to make him a priority when he is obviously only making you an option. Bottom line, unless he is dead or in an accident there are no excuses for this behavior. If you text him asking questions about what happened he will see you as desperate. He will know he can come and go as he pleases and you will accept this behavior.
Do nothing, let him go. Don't text, don't call, don't arrange to bump into him somewhere. By doing nothing it shows you are not bothered, you are too busy to be bothered. Next time he does text, don't reply right away. Show him you are carefree and don't really need him. This increases your value in his eyes. Guys appreciate things of value.
Last of all, don't beat yourself up. This happens to all of us over and over again. Move forward to and save your effort for someone who is putting effort into you.
For rules about calling and texting guys and what to do and not to do click here.
Monday, August 30, 2010
How to Text a Guy and Keep Him on His Toes
It's not what you say as much as it is your techniques. For example if you are the one initiating most of the texting conversations, you are probably killing the attraction unknowingly. It tells the guy you are more into him than he is into you and it gives him the power to dominate the terms and pace of the relationship. Let him put in most of the effort, especially in the beginning. Guys like a challenge, so don't be over eager. Let him think he will have to put in some wok to get your attention. If he isn't willing, you don't want him anyway.
Men don't respond to words, so what you say does not carry as much weight as you may think. Guys have been tuning out our words forever, that is unless we say something to their penis, that is a different story. All of a sudden they are on full alert. Don't do this however. You don't want them replying to you for the wrong reason. You want them to be hooked before you go there. So when a guy texts you, don't be to anxious to reply. Wait a while. If you reply immediately every time you become predictable. Be there, but just out of reach. You can do this by varying the time it takes you to reply. He will never be able to predict if it will be 15 minutes or hours. When he does hear from you he will be relieved and this builds up anticipation which builds attraction. When learning the how to text a guy techniques, remember, anticipation is powerful.
If he tries to engage in a marathon texting event, don't go there. That is giving him too much too soon and will not keep him on his toes. One sure tip for cutting off a conversation is the old "lol". If he says something humorous, send the old "lol". It does not really warrant a reply and it can end the conversation. When texting a guy, leave him wanting more. Don't give it all to him at once. If you do participate in a marathon texting session, he tends to start thinking you don't have much of a life and he assumes you are really into him. Don't let him get too comfortable to fast. Marathon texting should only be done on occasion. Just give him a taste of what it would be like to have more of your attention. Marathon texting is not high on the list of how to text a guy.
Think about how it always seems that the one you don't really like texts you all the time while the guy you really like seems to not be so reliable. Why is this? Do you treat the one you don't like so much differently? I imagine you don't jump to reply to his messages and you don't find yourself constantly checking you phone. You certainly don't have your phone glued to your person waiting on his text. Could it be that is why he is so into you, because you treat him with a nonchalant, don't care attitude. To balance this out, text the guy you really like as if he was the one you didn't really like. It adds mystery and that to a guy is pretty appealing. Less is more when in doubt of how to text a guy.
I have a lot of guy friends. I have been out with them and girls are texting them constantly. They show each other the messages and usually don't speak to highly of the perpetual texter. Oh but when they send a text to a girl and she doesn't jump right away, I have seen how they constantly check their phones, sometimes even send a second text. That girl is keeping them on their toes for sure.
Learn how to use text messaging to keep your guy on his toes and into you. The majority of women are clueless how powerful this can be to heighten a guys attraction level. To Learn to master this skill and keep his head spinning click here.
Men don't respond to words, so what you say does not carry as much weight as you may think. Guys have been tuning out our words forever, that is unless we say something to their penis, that is a different story. All of a sudden they are on full alert. Don't do this however. You don't want them replying to you for the wrong reason. You want them to be hooked before you go there. So when a guy texts you, don't be to anxious to reply. Wait a while. If you reply immediately every time you become predictable. Be there, but just out of reach. You can do this by varying the time it takes you to reply. He will never be able to predict if it will be 15 minutes or hours. When he does hear from you he will be relieved and this builds up anticipation which builds attraction. When learning the how to text a guy techniques, remember, anticipation is powerful.
If he tries to engage in a marathon texting event, don't go there. That is giving him too much too soon and will not keep him on his toes. One sure tip for cutting off a conversation is the old "lol". If he says something humorous, send the old "lol". It does not really warrant a reply and it can end the conversation. When texting a guy, leave him wanting more. Don't give it all to him at once. If you do participate in a marathon texting session, he tends to start thinking you don't have much of a life and he assumes you are really into him. Don't let him get too comfortable to fast. Marathon texting should only be done on occasion. Just give him a taste of what it would be like to have more of your attention. Marathon texting is not high on the list of how to text a guy.
Think about how it always seems that the one you don't really like texts you all the time while the guy you really like seems to not be so reliable. Why is this? Do you treat the one you don't like so much differently? I imagine you don't jump to reply to his messages and you don't find yourself constantly checking you phone. You certainly don't have your phone glued to your person waiting on his text. Could it be that is why he is so into you, because you treat him with a nonchalant, don't care attitude. To balance this out, text the guy you really like as if he was the one you didn't really like. It adds mystery and that to a guy is pretty appealing. Less is more when in doubt of how to text a guy.
I have a lot of guy friends. I have been out with them and girls are texting them constantly. They show each other the messages and usually don't speak to highly of the perpetual texter. Oh but when they send a text to a girl and she doesn't jump right away, I have seen how they constantly check their phones, sometimes even send a second text. That girl is keeping them on their toes for sure.
Learn how to use text messaging to keep your guy on his toes and into you. The majority of women are clueless how powerful this can be to heighten a guys attraction level. To Learn to master this skill and keep his head spinning click here.
Thursday, August 26, 2010
What You Must Know About Texting and Calling Guys
Face it, the telephone, mainly your cell phone plays a huge part in your dating experience. You wonder if and when he is going to call. What harm is done by calling or texting guys? He gave you his number so that means he wants you to call. Well he may not mind, but when you call a guy, you send out some pretty strong messages unknowingly.
First you tell him that you are more interested in him than he is in you. If he is interested, he will call, it just may not be in your time frame. A guys time frame is so different. If he thinks you are more interested, he will see you as no challenge. Guys want a challenge. Chances are you will become the girl on the back burner that he calls when he can't get the girl that is a challenge. So before you call or text a guy, what signal do you want to send?
To Learn the rules of calling and texting guys and how to use the phone as your most powerful dating tool, click here.
If you are worried that he may think you are not interested, you are spending way too much time stressing over this guy. Is he wondering the same thing about you. He should be the one calling you if he is. When the guy does the chasing, it feels so much better for you and for him. It makes him feel like he is the one winning you over. This is very powerful. Its best to let a guy call you, not you call or text a guy.
If a guy feels like he has put forth an effort to win you over, he will see you as the prize. If you are the one coming to him, you are no won prize, you are a free consolation. He did not even have to dig to the bottom of the cereal box to get you, you were just laying there on top. What happens to theprize in the cereal box? It gets tossed rather quickly.
Wait before you pick up that phone. Stop thinking of instant gratification and focus on long term satisfaction. Do you want the calls to continue or do you once again want to be asking "Why did he stop calling?"
First you tell him that you are more interested in him than he is in you. If he is interested, he will call, it just may not be in your time frame. A guys time frame is so different. If he thinks you are more interested, he will see you as no challenge. Guys want a challenge. Chances are you will become the girl on the back burner that he calls when he can't get the girl that is a challenge. So before you call or text a guy, what signal do you want to send?
To Learn the rules of calling and texting guys and how to use the phone as your most powerful dating tool, click here.
If you are worried that he may think you are not interested, you are spending way too much time stressing over this guy. Is he wondering the same thing about you. He should be the one calling you if he is. When the guy does the chasing, it feels so much better for you and for him. It makes him feel like he is the one winning you over. This is very powerful. Its best to let a guy call you, not you call or text a guy.
If a guy feels like he has put forth an effort to win you over, he will see you as the prize. If you are the one coming to him, you are no won prize, you are a free consolation. He did not even have to dig to the bottom of the cereal box to get you, you were just laying there on top. What happens to theprize in the cereal box? It gets tossed rather quickly.
Wait before you pick up that phone. Stop thinking of instant gratification and focus on long term satisfaction. Do you want the calls to continue or do you once again want to be asking "Why did he stop calling?"
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