Wednesday, June 30, 2010

How to Text a Guy you Like and Spark his Interest

Funny but with a guy we don't really like, we don't even have to think about how to text him, we just instinctively don't put much thought into it. Why should it be different with texting a guy you like? Ever notice how the ones we don't like stick around and the ones we do often vanish? That is often because we don't show them all that much interest and we become a challenge. A guy loves a good challenge does he not?

I have a friend who spent an entire day texting a guy. She was so excited, thought because he was texting her all day, he was into her. Fast forward a week. He never once asked her out and all texting stopped. Why? Because she was too available. It sent the message that this girl had nothing better to do but spend a day of mindless chatter. It also screams desperation. Don't be a perpetual all day texter. He gets bored.

When texting a guy you like, always try to be the first one to exit the conversation. Leave him wanting more. Don't fill up his glass all at once. If he texts you, fine, reply, but don't make a day of it. You want him to think you have a busy interesting life. If you are jumping every time the guy you like texts you, he will start to see you as hanging on his every word.

When texting a guy you like it's a good idea to not answer right away. Wait a couple of hours. That way the anticipation builds, then when you do text he feels relief. This creates a powerful trigger to him. In the future when he gets a text from you he will associate it with relief and good feelings. Those good feelings translate into you.

When texting a guy you like don't wake up in the morning and send him a "Good Morning" text or a "Good Night" text. Let him do this first. Let him lead, you follow softly behind. In the beginning if I get one of these I reply with a short sweet "u 2". That's it, nothing more, nothing less. Make him work for it. Men value what they work hardest for.

Texting is fun and can build some pretty intense attraction if done skillfully and playfully. It pays off to know the art of texting.

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

How to Text Guys and Build the Attraction Out the Roof

First you need to understand men really don't respond to words all that much. How many time have they tuned us out? That is often because we are talking to them like we would want to be talked to. This does not work, they are not women. To communicate and stimulate a man, go for his ego. Sweet does not get it when you are texting a guy.

When learning how to text a guy, first lesson is do not overkill. If you text too much and too often, he sees you as needy or desperate. Less is always more when it comes to men. Don't be the girl that when he is out with the guys that he shows his phone to his buddies and rolls his eyes about and not in a good way. If you are a perpetual texter, this will be a huge turn off and a warning flag of drama queen ahead.

It's also best to let him initiate first. When he opens the door, you walk on through, full of wit and humor. Pick and tease him, go after that huge ego. A man's first instinct is to defend his ego and manhood. Don't do so with malice, use softeners when you do this such a a smiley face. When texting a guy, imagine wearing a halo and horns at the same time. Guys love the Angel/Devil combination.

When texting guys, a little provocative suggestion goes a long way. A subliminal talk with his penis is what I call it. Never be direct, always say something that could have a double meaning. That way he can't ever accuse you of being dirty, but he can certainly think you might be a bit naughty, but with no hard core proof to back it up. How fun is that.?

When you are texting a guy, you want to create positive anchors and triggers. When he sees he has a message from you, you want him to feel anticipation before he reads it. You want to use this anticipation to build the attraction. When learning the best ways how to text a guy, always remember, less is more. Also try to be let him be the last one to text, find a good cut off point and stop, leaving him wanting more.

Learn the art of texting guys. Build up his attraction and be the girl that he gets excited about when his phone rings