Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Texting Guys -Are You Killing His Attraction

If you have a new guy in your life and are in the early stages of courtship, chances are good you will be texting him and he will be texting you. Flirty texting is fun, but if you aren't careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on his attraction.

I am going to share a story with you here as an example as to how this can happen. The names have been changed of course. Bill met Cindy. They hit if off and exchanged phone numbers. They exchange a few texts, got together a few times and it's going good. Cindy sees this as he is into her. She starts texting him random things at random times. She texts him Good Morning or Good Night, she texts him that she misses him. She texts him and asks questions like when is she going to see him again. She even sends him texts about what she may be doing at any given point of the day.

Cindy wants Bill to know she is interested in him, she wants him to know she likes him. She thinks this will make him like her more. Wrong. Bill and I run into each other and he tells me Cindy is great, but he just isn't feeling it for her. What happened? Cindy killed the attraction by taking away the chase for Bill. Bill already knows she is into him, so what is left to work for? When texting guys, it is never a good idea to be too available or forth coming. Guys love mystery. If you share to much when texting a guy you like, you kill the mystery which kills his attraction.

Even if Bill is texting her that he misses her or wants to see her, she still should hold back. In the beginning a guy is living in the moment. The beginning is when you set the hook and build that attraction that leads to his attachment. If you are giving him everything too fast, he is going to get bored and eventually disappear. When texting a guy, hold back, be mysterious. Don't fall into the trap of girlfriend behavior before he has given you that title.

When you text him too often, offer up too much, he sees you like you are waving a sign around that says "Pick Me, Pick Me". Not attractive. He should be wondering if you are going to pick him instead. This builds the attraction, this gives him something to work for. Don't underestimate the power of attraction and how texting a guy can be a huge factor in this.

Does the guy you are seeing sometimes not reply to your texts or go days with no contact? If you are frustrated with this behavior, some simple texting techniques can turn this completely around for you if used wisely.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

How a Guy Stole My Heart Texting

I don't usually get so personal and God knows I don't know where this will go, but I wanted to share how words through texting can really build a deep attraction in a woman. An attraction so great, that she wouldn't care if you had one eye or looked like a troll. By the time I finally met this guy, I was so attracted to him, it was just down right nuts.

We were long distance and meeting was not feasible in the beginning, so the only form of communication we used were texts messages via phone and email. The messages he sent were not your ordinary lame messages like "how are you", or "Good Morning". They were well thought out and planned. They pushed my emotional buttons. If you can push a woman's buttons, you got it made. I feel in love and I literally hung on every text this guy sent.

He used silence and mystery to heighten my attraction. It was not always what he did say, but often what he didn't say. He left gaps for my imagination to fill in. A woman that is left to use her imagination can create all sorts of things. In my mind, he created attraction. Combining techniques with the words when texting a girl can be very powerful. Think about this, why can't we do the same when texting a guy.

Now I have texted and emailed with hundreds of guys and am here to say, none of them held a candle to this guy. He knew instinctively what got a women's attention. If a guy can do this texting with a woman, then why can't a woman create this kind of attraction with a guy using a lot of the same techniques.

Trust me you can. I have been swooned and have swooned men with my texting techniques. If you aren't using it as a huge part of your dating tools, you are underestimating the power of text messages in building attraction. How and what you text guys is critical in your dating life.

In case you are wondering, we are still long distance, we are still texting, and yes it's been a year and the attraction is still present. Where it will go, I don't know, but this guy has techniques and button pushing down to a science. I have since learned a lot from him and now I use his techniques to attract guys. It works, I promise.

Friday, November 5, 2010

Flirty Texting Techniques That Make Him Want to See You

Men are attracted to mystery, allure, and a challenge. These can all be captured in your flirty text messages and build the attraction unbelievably. To create mystery you have to remember it is sometimes what you don't say that says the most. In other words when texting, don't always answer his questions direct, be evasive, but friendly. This is a very successful technique in building mystery.

Response time is also a good way to build up the attraction. if you always reply right back, you become predictable. Don't be predictable, wait before you reply. Depending on the message a couple of hours won't hurt. Then when he finally does get your reply, which of course is going to be light and flirty, you better believe he is going to pay it more attention. Presto, you got his full attention. Think long term satisfaction girls, not instant gratification.

Less is always more in texting. I have to mention the perpetual texter. The one that replies right back or texts all day long. Do you really think guys find this attractive? Maybe it's good for a quick fix for a few weeks, but trust me, it won't go long term. Flirty Texting Techniques do not include being a perpetual texter.

Playing on words is also a great way to send flirty text messages. You can be a little evil with this, yet he can't come right out and say you were being evil. For example, he texts you a yes or no question. Your answer "I moist say no". I guess you could call it subliminal talk to the penis. That really is exactly what it is. Learn to do this, and it gets his/her attention. Subtle yet sexy flirty text messages.

I have been swooned, and I have swooned in text messaging. Not many realize what a huge dating tool this has become. Get his attention, keep it.