Should I Call Him - Should I Email Him

You are sitting there staring at your phone or maybe your computer screen contemplating should I call him, should I email him. whichever one you are struggling with, they are both about should you contact him.

It depends on your motives for calling him or emailing him. What is it that you hope to gain? A date? A confirmation that he is into you? Access your motives first, because more times than not calling men or emailing me, initiating that contact is you seeking some form of validation from him.

If he isn't giving it to you of his own free will and needs you to lead and hold his hand, well, more than likely you are better off to step away from the phone, step away from the computer. It's not going to make him like you anymore. It's not going to attract him.

Quite the opposite. You are depriving him of the chase. I know a lot of women who email or call men when they haven't heard from him in as little as a days time. Patience I am going to tell you pays off. It feels so much better to see his name pop up in your inbox knowing he did it because he wanted to. It feels so good to see his name on your cell phone screen because then you know he was thinking of you and you did nothing to force this.

Another thing to remember when you are wondering should I call him, should I email him is this. If you do and he doesn't respond right away, leave it alone. If you keep on, he is going to think of you as needy and will dismiss any relationship potential that you may have had with him.

If you are going to play the calling, texting and emailing games with a man, you best get it down and learn to do it right. A man can learn a lot about you by how you handle these media forms. These things alone are big clues to him as to if you will make good girlfriend or relationship, even marriage material.

If you want to know all about how and when to call me and how it plays such a huge role in weather he chooses you for more than friends, please check out Mimi Tanner's book. It's the bomb and has all you ever need to know about calling, texting and emailing men.