Are You Texting Him to Death?

I am writing this topic because just recently I was dating a text-aholic. It made me think about some women I know that text their boyfriends or even new boyfriends relentlessly. This guy he did that. At first it was sweet. You know how it is when you first meet someone that interests you. You have those rose colored glasses on.

Fast forward a few of weeks. I could set my clock by this guy. One in the morning saying the exact same thing every single day. Then a call mid morning, a text at lunch, one in the afternoon, a call at night, and a goodnight text. I almost lost my mind. I would tell him, don't get me wrong, but it didn't help. I hated it, he was a nice guy.

Anyway, he would slow down for a day or so, and then right back at it. I told him many times, so finally, I let him go. It was more to it than how often he texted me and how it annoyed me. It was about me telling him and him not paying attention nor respecting my wishes. No discussion of compromise on this issue. He walked right over my boundaries. This is grounds for dumping in my book, it's my #1 deal breaker.

So ladies, remember this when you want to text a man to death. It kills all attraction and is annoying as crap. Less is More!

To Text Him Or To Sext Him

Texting a guy or sexting a guy, what is the difference? Pretty obvious I guess. Texting is just exchanging conversation, sexting is taking it to an entirely other level. If you are sexting with a guy, you are talking dirty or giving off sexual vibes.

Now both can be fun, but be careful here. If you just met the guy and you want a relationship, sexting him can be deadly. Yes it will get his attention and spark his interest, no doubt. He will probably blow your phone up to be honest, but is this what you want? You are going to get instant gratification, but if you want long term satisfaction, hold off on the sexting until you have him hooked. Stick to texting him.

Once you start sexting, it is almost impossible to turn it around. He is going to see you as an easy target if you just started dating. Texting can enhance your dating life and you can use it to draw him in, but be careful not to send out the wrong signals.

There are many signals your texting can send out, like you are too available, you are easy, you are desperate, etc.

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Stop Texting Him Before He Runs for The Hills

First off, if he is texting you, yes you should reply. It's the polite thing to do. If on the other hand you are the one initiating all or most of the texting communication, you might want to reconsider. You are investing way more into him than he is you and the relationship will not be balanced. You are training him that you are willing to do all of the work to keep it going. Not a good thing at all. It would be wise on your part to stop texting him first. Let him come to you.

The reason you want him to come to you is because for one girl, you are worth it. You should not have to be the one to keep it going. You are the prize, you are valuable. If you don't stop texting him all the time, he will not see you as valuable. He will see you as available, perhaps easy, and maybe even needy. Not attractive qualities and not qualities that increase your value in his eyes.

Ever heard the phrase "We want what we can't have". If you are texting him all the time, guess what? He knows he can have you anytime. Where is the challenge in that? You might as well jump up and down screaming "Pick me, Pick me!". Stop texting him, let him text you. You reply flirty and evasive. Be the girl who he just can't quite have. This is crucial in building the attraction, especially in the beginning of dating.

In Summary, don't be a perpetual texter. Don't be the girl that while he is busy or out with the guys who constantly texts him. Stop texting him and let him text you. Let him wonder what you are doing. He will be rolling his eyes and sharing this information with his pals. This does not show you in a good light. Less is more, always.