If you have a new guy in your life and are in the early stages of courtship, chances are good you will be texting him and he will be texting you. Flirty texting is fun, but if you aren't careful, you can unknowingly put a huge damper on his attraction.
I am going to share a story with you here as an example as to how this can happen. The names have been changed of course. Bill met Cindy. They hit if off and exchanged phone numbers. They exchange a few texts, got together a few times and it's going good. Cindy sees this as he is into her. She starts texting him random things at random times. She texts him Good Morning or Good Night, she texts him that she misses him. She texts him and asks questions like when is she going to see him again. She even sends him texts about what she may be doing at any given point of the day.
Cindy wants Bill to know she is interested in him, she wants him to know she likes him. She thinks this will make him like her more. Wrong. Bill and I run into each other and he tells me Cindy is great, but he just isn't feeling it for her. What happened? Cindy killed the attraction by taking away the chase for Bill. Bill already knows she is into him, so what is left to work for? When texting guys, it is never a good idea to be too available or forth coming. Guys love mystery. If you share to much when texting a guy you like, you kill the mystery which kills his attraction.
Even if Bill is texting her that he misses her or wants to see her, she still should hold back. In the beginning a guy is living in the moment. The beginning is when you set the hook and build that attraction that leads to his attachment. If you are giving him everything too fast, he is going to get bored and eventually disappear. When texting a guy, hold back, be mysterious. Don't fall into the trap of girlfriend behavior before he has given you that title.
When you text him too often, offer up too much, he sees you like you are waving a sign around that says "Pick Me, Pick Me". Not attractive. He should be wondering if you are going to pick him instead. This builds the attraction, this gives him something to work for. Don't underestimate the power of attraction and how texting a guy can be a huge factor in this.
Does the guy you are seeing sometimes not reply to your texts or go days with no contact? If you are frustrated with this behavior, some simple texting techniques can turn this completely around for you if used wisely.
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