I have a forum for women. All sorts of topics come up there, all about dealing with men, dating and relationships. There is a sexting tips thread there. While sexting can be fun and add a spark to your relationship, too much is not a good thing.
Recently a woman wanted some sexting tips, well we all chimed in a gave them to her, but it back fired on her. now when he texts or should I say sexts her, it's always about sex. She is beginning to wonder if that is all he likes her for. I can't say that I blame her. We gave her the sexting tips, but left out the consequences it could cause her. Sexting is fun, but can really get out of hand. We women want to be values for more than our kitties or ability to give a blow job. We have hearts, brains and minds we want guys to see as well.
The place she screwed up is not really in what she sexted, but the fact that she did it at the very beginning of dating. If you do this at the first few weeks or months or two, well this is when you are laying the groundwork for how a man treats you. I can give you hundreds of sexting tips but please hold onto them until your relationship is started and off the ground.
You see, men are boys, they love this sexting stuff and they will run with it. You can type a message that your cat died and put something about his big firm penis in the same message and he will miss the cat part completely. Maybe not this bad but you get my point. They are going to run with the sex everytime unless he is a man with a few hang ups. If you want a man to see you as you are, leave the sexting tips until later, otherwise it's going to be hard to back track.
Changing the rules in midstream confuses a man. If you start out using these sexting tips, then ask that he stop, you are sending mixed signals. Something we accuse them of so often.
It a man starts up on the sexting before you do and it's early in the game this is the best time to see his true colors. You don't have to be rude or ugly about it, but you can let him know that you aren't comfortable with that. Sometimes ignoring such texts or changing the subject will do the trick and he gets the hint. Other times you may need to just tell him, nicely of course. Something like "I am flattered, but that sort of makes me uncomfortable until we know one another better". His reaction is your sign. If he accepts, good for him, if he reacts like a child, go ahead and toss him now. He just wants sex.
Sexting tips, oh I have many and will write them all down soon. It's fun, it can rekindle a spark, it can make your relationship more fun and exciting when done at the right time. If done too soon though, it will set you up as a sex object and leaving you struggling to change his perception of you. Don't fall into this trap. The woman I spoke of above did finally have to claw her way out of the corner she had backed herself into. She managed, and he stuck around, but she was stressing for weeks prior wondering how on earth to get him off the sex and into her.
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