Is Language of Desire a Scam?

Being a dating and relationship author I am pretty active on a few forums and sites on the Web.  I kept hearing women talk about the language of desire and how it turned their life upside down in a good way.  If you are wondering is the language of desire is a scam, I can tell you first hand it is not. 

Oh when you land on the sales page of the language of desire, it almost looks too good to be true.  You have probably been burned by hype before. This ebook will no disappoint and the reason is, it really does tap into the secret desires of men.  The desires that they don't share with you because they fear they may be judged.  The desires that they crave, but are often scared to ask for. 

This program has sold over 1.5 million in just six weeks with a very low return rate.  That speaks volumes right there.  Below are just a few blurbs of the language of desire reviews.

My long distance relationship was fading.  We were talking less and less and he wasn't coming to see me like he used to .  I downloaded the language of desire and just Wow!  Mind blowing.  That was 2 months ago and he is not planning to move here to be closer to me.  Thank you!  Thank you!  Cindy, Houston Texas

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My husband had just stopped wanting to have sex.  It had been over a year since he even tried.  I was always to one to make the moves.  I used some of the things I learned in language of desire one night just texting him from across the room at a party and the rest is history!  He could not wait to get me home! We can't get enough of each other and the sex is not only frequent now, but amazing!  Jenny, Norfolk, Virginia. 

I thought I was too shy to talk dirty to a man.  I thought the language of desire was going to be something that taught me how to act like a slut.  Boy was I wrong.  I have never had more passionate, connecting and satisfying sex in my life.  Margie, Clear Water, Florida

So is language of desire a scam?  Nope, don't thing so.  Check it out for yourself here!


 


 

 

Texts to Send to Make Him Think of You

If you are wanting to know some good texts to send to make him think of you, the first thing to think about is will he be open to this.  In other words if it's a guy who is not your boyfriend and that you hardly know, you may want to slow it down before you fire of one of these text messages. 

Some of the text messages I am going to suggest for you to send to make him think about you will backfire if you send it to the wrong guy.  If he isn't your boyfriend yet and you just met and aren't in any type of relationship, these texts will be just creepy. 

Timing is also important.  The ideal time to send one of these powerful messages is the day you are supposed to see him.  This builds the anticipation and anticipation can build attraction. 

Take for example you have a date tonight with this guy.  Send him something like "when I see you tonight, I am going to _____________.  And yes, leave it blank.  When he asks, reply "you have to wait and see".  Being mysterious texting is good.  Leave it to his imagination. 

Another good time to text is after a great date.  Pick something specific that he did that made you feel good and just tell him about it.  Showing some vulnerability is powerful. 

Now there are a few things no girl should ever send to a guy.  These are not going to make him think of you and will not keep you on his mind.

A text that really says nothing.  Just a "hey" or "what ya doing?" is a waste of time.  It does nothing to build attraction. 

Don't send long paragraphs.  A sentence or two is enough.  I have been texting men long enough to know that they will only pick up on one thing that you said in your message.  Please trust me on this.  Stick to one topic only in a text message. 

No naked pics please.  Guys will share these with their other guy friends.  If you are just looking for a hook up and no relationship,  naked pics might be good, but leave your face out.  You don't want to be circulating around the world via the internet. 

Also please don't overdo it.  Text to send to make him think of you should be used sparingly.  If you do this every day it loses it's magic.  You get predictable.  Also there is some truth that absence makes the heart grow fonder.  If you are constantly texting a guy, he doesn't have the chance to miss you.

Lastly, if you really want to get to the heart of a man via texting and discover techniques to turn him into a hopeless romantic, check out Michael Fiore's Text the Romance here! 

What to do When Guys Suddenly Stop Texting

Your number one love interest has gone silent.  He was texting you everyday and you were on top of the world.  Now radio silence and you are wondering what happened.  What to do when guys stop texting you all of a sudden.

Your instincts and human nature probably are telling you to reach out.  You want to find out why and if you did something wrong or said something to turn him off.  You may even be feeling a bit of anger and want to lash out with some sarcastic comment or send him a blaming type text message.

Please don't do any of the above.  That is not what to do when guys suddenly stop texting you.  It just paints you in an unattractive light and confirms for him that not texting you is the right thing to do.  

When you react in negative or needy ways when he stops texting you, it shows him you aren't in control of your emotions.  A woman in control of herself is very attractive, while a woman who is not is one he will classify as crazy.  You don't want to be known as crazy do you?  

Most girls will continue to text a guy that is not texting her.  That is what guys expect and it's also what they try to avoid.  If you mirror his behavior, meaning don't text him either, you will stand out.  When you continue to text a guy that isn't texting you, in any form, you are investing into someone who isn't investing into you.  Please value yourself more than this.  

When you do nothing as in show no reaction at all he will notice.  Also you won't be annoying him further.  When guys stop texting, they are usually feeling your anxiousness and pulling back.  Showing more anxiousness will only push him further away.  Also texting a guy that isn't texting you shows him that you don't trust him to make his own decisions and that you are trying to control the situation.  Guys don't like to feel controlled.

Chances are if you do nothing when a guy suddenly stops texting you, he will reach out again in the future and that is when he will be more open to listening to you.  

Learn how to speak the language of desire that few men can resist and perhaps you won't have to worry again why guys stop texting you.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Drive Him Crazy Texting

First you need to understand men really don't respond to words all that much. How many time have they tuned us out? That is often because we are talking to them like we would want to be talked to. This does not work, they are not women. To communicate and stimulate a man, go for his ego. Sweet does not get it when you are trying to drive him crazy texting. 

When learning how to text a guy,  and drive him crazy texting, first lesson is do not overkill. If you text too much and too often, he sees you as needy or desperate. Less is always more when it comes to men. Don't be the girl that when he is out with the guys that he shows his phone to his buddies and rolls his eyes about and not in a good way. If you are a perpetual texter, this will be a huge turn off and a warning flag of drama queen ahead.

It's also best to let him initiate first. When he opens the door, you walk on through, full of wit and humor. Pick and tease him, go after that huge ego. A man's first instinct is to defend his ego and manhood. Don't do so with malice, use softeners when you do this such a a smiley face.

When texting a guy, imagine wearing a halo and horns at the same time. Guys love the Angel/Devil combination.

When texting guys, a little provocative suggestion goes a long way. A subliminal talk with his penis is what I call it. Never be direct, always say something that could have a double meaning. That way he can't ever accuse you of being dirty, but he can certainly think you might be a bit naughty, but with no hard core proof to back it up. Guy like a challenge, but they also like to know they can win. 

When you are texting a guy, you want to create positive anchors and triggers. When he sees he has a message from you, you want him to feel anticipation before he reads it. You want to use this anticipation to build the attraction. When learning the best ways how to text a guy, always remember, less is more. Also try to be let him be the last one to text, find a good cut off point and stop, leaving him wanting more.

Learn the art of texting guys. Build up his attraction and be the girl that he gets excited about when his phone rings. Don't go at this blindly, to find out how to trigger a man's attraction and turn him into your romantic, check out Text the Romance here for all kinds of great texting tips and examples. 

Should I Text My Ex on His Birthday?

So you and your boyfriend are broken up and now it's his birthday!  You want to know should I text my ex happy birthday?  Here are just a few thoughts before you let your fingers do the talking.

You most likely see this as an excuse to make contact.  If you see it as an excuse, he will too. Ask yourself what is the real motive behind you wanting to text your ex?  Be honest with yourself.  Is it to remind him you still think of him, that you still care?  Do you hope he will suddenly remember you are alive and want to get back together.

When a man breaks up with you, he has decided he no longer wants you in his life, at least in that moment.  To still cling to him, even with a simply happy birthday text is not something you do with people who have chosen to longer be a part of your life.

If you think it's rude not to text your ex on his birthday, think again a bit harder.  He isn't a part of your life anymore.  You aren't included in his birthday plans.  His life is going on.  By texting your ex, you are showing him that perhaps yours is not.

You will make him wonder far more by not texting him on his birthday than if you do.  If you want him back, a little wondering works wonders.  It's when they feel you slipping out of their grasp for good that they may begin to feel regret.  If you text your ex on his birthday, you are still in his grasp.

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Does he text you on your birthday?  Will he?  Giving more than you are getting is not the way to a man's heart nor will it suddenly make him long for you.  If anything, he may even see you as sad.  Sad is not attractive.

If you are thinking of texting an ex happy birthday, think again.  Save your text messages for a man who is present in your life and giving back to you what you are giving him.  A happy birthday text to your ex will not bring him back.

If you want to know when, how and what to text to your ex that will be effective, you should check out Text Your Ex Back Here.

What Can I Text My Ex

If you are asking the question, what can I text my ex, chances are you have recently went through a break up.  You are wanting to make some sort of contact.  You probably want him back if you are searching for something to text him to make him want to respond.  Understand that if this is a recent break up, there isn't much you can text him at this point that want be seen as a blaring excuse.  He may likely see it as you grasping at straws.

If your breakup is fresh, your emotions are raw and about anything you do will be driven from these emotions.  We make bad decisions from this place and often end up pushing the man further away.

Timing is everything if you are thinking of texting your ex.  He really needs time to process it all before you go began to attempt to open the lines of communication back up.  I recently got an email from a reader who asked me this question.  "What can I text my ex to make him contact me on his own?".  First, if you are baiting him, he won't exactly be texting you on his own.  If he replies to your texts, you have prodded him.  The goal if you really want your ex back if for him to come to realize on his own that in fact his life is better with you in it than not.

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There are techniques and certain words you can text that will propel him back towards you, but it must be done at the right time and the right time is not soon after the break up.  When a break up is fresh, emotions run high on both sides and chances are almost 100% you will just make it worse.

Michael Fiore has created a product that takes timing, delivery and what to say into account to work towards getting back together with you ex not only possible, but probable.  Check it out.

How To Text Into His Heart - Text Him In Love

Can you text your way into his heart? Can you text him in love?  I think yes you can make some progress here that is for sure.  Will your texting efforts cause him to fall deeply in love?  Perhaps not, but you can bet they have to power to lock you into his mind if and only if you do it right.  Most women don't do it right.

I can give you examples and tell you why and how they work.  Men like to be appreciated.  Women like to feel adored.  Many get these crossed up.  A woman thinks because her need is to be adored that is what will feel good to him.  Actually he would rather feel appreciated.

Lets say he texts you he is thinking about you.  Do you?
A)  Text back how much you are thinking about him too
B)  Text back how good it makes you feel to hear him say this?

The answer is B.  The first answer is responding to him like you would want to be responded to.  Men aren't women.  The second answer rewards his efforts, not his words.  A man likes the recognition of his efforts.  It makes him feel like "The man".  If you can make him feel like "The Man", you will fare far better than the woman who brings on the compliments.

Lets say he has just texted you of something he has accomplished.  Maybe a raise, maybe a promotion, maybe he lifted 200 pounds 80 times at the gym, whatever.  How you reply makes a difference.  Would you:
A) That's great. lets celebrate!
B) I am proud of you
C) I knew you would do it!  Wow, I am dating an executive now!  My girlfriends will be jealous.

The answer would be C.  It shows you had faith in him, it shows you are proud.  It shows him in an overall good light and makes him feel good.

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When texting into a man's heart, remember to reward efforts and not words.  Remember he isn't wired like a woman.  Men like appreciation and acceptance.  Before you hit send ask yourself do your words convey appreciation and acceptance or are they more suited towards what one of your girlfriends would want to hear.

Men are also visual.  If you want to reach him emotionally you need to learn how to paint pictures with your words.  Just sharing your emotions with men isn't how to do this.  

Text the Romance has hundreds of examples and techniques on how to build an emotional attraction with a man with texts messages and text him in love.  Men fall in love with the way you make then feel and texting is a great tool that you can use to your advantage.  

Romantic Text Messages to Send to Your Boyfriend

So you want to send him a romantic text message.  A text that will make him think about you and feel all warm and fuzzy.  When doing this, it's important to remember that what is romantic to you may not feel romantic to him.  Men do think differently and they are visual creatures.  When sending him a romantic text, paint a picture in his mind for best results.  Play on his imagination.

What is romantic to a woman is not romantic to a man.  Often women send men messaged that they think of as romantic.  Think about flowers.  You may thing receiving flowers as romantic, but a man, not so much.  Romantic text messaged to send to your boyfriend could turn into messages that your girlfriends would prefer to here if you get my drift.

Men like to make women happy.  Often women screw up by sending a message that tells him how wonderful he is.  Try sending one that tells how wonderful he makes you feel or how he makes you smile.  Here is an example of the difference in the two messages below.

Wrong:  I can't stop thinking about how hot you looked last night when you __________________.

Right:  I can't stop smiling today thinking about when you did ______________ last night.

Now there really isn't anything wrong with the first message, but the second one conveys to him that he makes you happy.  It's much more romantic without being cheesy.

When sending a romantic text, think of him as the hero.  He is your hero.  He is special and makes you feel special.  Focus on how he makes you feel, not on how you hope he feels if that makes sense.  Men like to win.  Let him know that he is winning without going overboard.

If you do this the right way, you can turn him inspire him to be more romantic in return.  You can text romance into your live. You can ignite passion with the right words in a romantic text message.

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Can You Text Your Ex Back?

Sounds crazy?  Not really.  Text messages if sent at the right time with the right words can act as triggers to men.  It can trigger emotions and feelings of the past to come up.  The think you want to focus on though is the good feelings and not the bad ones.  Timing is also a key element here.

I have texted and ex back once upon a time.  I didn't do it right after the break up though.  I waited a month or so.  I gave him time to process his emotions and time for the ugly break up memory to fade a bit.  I then send messages to him that would trigger the feelings we had before things went down hill.  He was on my doorstep within a week and we were reconciling.

I can't say enough about the timing thing.  If you start texting him right after the break up, you won't be thinking clearly.  You will be focused on your pain and your feelings and seeking gratification and relief way too soon.  After a break up a man needs time to move through his feelings and emotions.  If you start texting your ex back too soon, you will fail.

Michael Fiore has created a step by step guide on texting your ex back.  It details out what type of texts to send to trigger these feelings in your ex.  It tells you when the timing is right.  It can be done.  Yes you can text your ex back.  There are no guarantees, but if you follow his plan, your chances are far greater than if you go at it on your own.  Text Your Ex Back.
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Are You Textually Appealing Quiz

How is your Text Appeal?  In other words, do your texts trigger excitement, attraction, warm fuzzy thoughts, and desire?  Do they have your mate longing to see you.  Take this quiz to find out if you are textually appealing or a wet blanket that conveys neediness or insecurity.

1.  If you meet a guy out and he gives you his number and says "text me", do you..
     a)  text him the next day and say something like "Hi, this is_________from________last night?
     b)  text him your number right then and there instead and say something like "You text me"
     c)  don't text him at all, if he was interested, he would have gotten your number

2.  You just had a great first date with a guy, do you
      a) text him right afterwards and tell you how great it was
      b) text him the next day to thank him
      c) you don't text him, he should be thanking you.

3.  You have been on a few dates with a guy and it looks promising, do you now text him
      a)  text him first daily
      b) start texting him goodmorning
      c)  back when he texts you

4.  You just text a guy you have been dating and he didn't reply do you
      a) text him again and maybe even again and again
      b) text him and ask him if everything is ok?
      c) do nothing, he may be busy, he will text when he can or wants to.
 
5.  A guy has been texting you for a few weeks, but never asks you out do you
     a)  text him suggestions for meeting up
     b)  text him sexual messages hoping to get his interest sparked
     c)  stop answering him or ask him to stop texting, you aren't looking for a pen pal

6.  A guy you have begun seeing starts these texting conversations and you
     a) love it, you text with him all day long, it's such fun
    b)  try to keep the converstation going as long as possible
    c)  text a few times, then gracefully exit the conversation

7.  You are texting back and forth with a guy and he just stops so you
      a)  text him and ask him where did he go
      b)  try to get him to continue with an interesting new message
      c)  do nothing, he got busy, he will text again later

8.  When texting with a guy who is the first to end the conversation usually
     a)  him
     b) you

Tally:
1.  a -1, b-3, c- 10
2.  a- 1, b-1, c-10
3.  a-1, b-1, c-10
4  a-0,b-1,c-10
5.  a-1,b-0,c-10
6.  a-1,b-1,c-10
7.  a-1,b-1,c-10
8.  a-0, b-10


If your score was between 60 and 80, congratulations, you are textually appealing and have got it going on.  You understand that you are the prize and that you shouldn't have to do all the heavy lifting to get what you want.  You understand how to ignite attraction and sexual tension and create positive triggers in guys.  You are mysterious, and inspire guys to want to know more about you.

If your score was between 40 and 60, you are on your way, but need some improvement.  You comprehend some of the dynamics to dating and attracting guys, but you still need some work.

If your score was between 20 and 60, there is hope, but you aren't sending the right messages to guys.  Your message may be along the lines of he is more significant to you than you are to you.

If your score is under 20 or worse under 10, you have zero text appeal and you might want to do some research on the subject.  You don't understand the male-femal dynamics and how it works to build some intense attraction, not to mention sexual tension. You can start here.  Should I text him.

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Text The Romance Back Examples and Fun!

I love the concept of text the romance back.  Some think it's silly.  Not so.  Some say texting is for teenagers.  Again, this just is not so.  This weekend, I had a lot of fun with texing with my significant other.  Friday night, we were out with a group of friends.  I was sitting next to my gossipy girlfriend and was getting annoyed to say the least.  My boyfriend was beside me, talking to one of his buds about work.  Again, that wasn't much more exciting either, so I decided to create my own excitement.

When I went to the bathroom, I took my phone.  I came up with a clever naughty text and had it ready to go.  I came back to the table, sat back down and hit send while going on about my business as if lil ole me hadn't done a thing.  My boyfriends phone chimed and he read the message.  The result?  He lost his focus and couldn't keep up the conversation with his bud.  We ended up texting back and forth a lot that night.  We stayed connected on an emotional level even amongst a crowd.  It heated up even more when we got home.

My boyfriend and I live together and often we get caught up in day to day life and stresses.  Texting has become a great connector for us.  I sometimes take my phone to the bedroom with me (I have a daughter, need I say more).  I woke up Sunday morning and my boyfriend was up.  I thought, hmmm, what can I do today?  I picked up my phone and sent him a text.  It said, "Good Morning Sweetie, I am laying here thinking of what it feels like when you do________________.  Fill in the blank.  He was laying in bed with me in 30 seconds flat.  Or you could send something like "I am laying in bed thinking about what if would feel like to do_______________to you.

These are just a few text the romance back examples.  I have found the more I do this, the more natural and creative I become at it.  The best part is, my boyfriend loves it too, it makes him feel wanted.  The best result of all is he too is learning, taking the time to also make me feel good and wanted back.  Win win!

Can you not see how texting the romance back can build a deeper emotional connections?  Is this for kids or teenagers?  I think not.

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Does Text The Romance Back Really Work

Can you really text the romance back into your relationship.  Can you ignite romance into a new relationship with a text message?  Absolutely yes you can.  I know this because I was doing this long before Michael Fiore ever wrote the book.  I did it in dating and I did it inside of relationships.  It has also been done to me.  Texting, emailing, instant messages,any electronic instant communication, it's all the same thing.  I once fell in love via email, no joke, the story is here.

It's all about building an emotional connection.  It's actually easy to do via text.  Not as much fear.  If you happen to get rejected, (which is very doubtful if you do it right), you can still plan a recovery text.  This is not so easy nor will it be as graceful face to face. Face to face, you don't have the luxury of thinking time to come up with something cleaver.

I learned in my heavy dating days that I could word my texts in a way that would produce the result I desired.  I could sit with my girlfriends, tell them what the outcome would be and hit send and wait.  Worked like a charm almost every time.  Some say this is a game, it's not.  It's just an instinctive understanding of human nature and what it craves and desires.  Give what another desires and chances are good you will get what you desire.

In text the romance back, you are given the tools or the right texts to send.  These texts are designed to make a man feel good and to... well feel like a man.  Not many men won't respond well to this.  Michael also tells you why they work.  He doesn't just lead you blindly through it.  He gives you the tools to be able to carry this out as second nature long after you have finished the book. 

For those that are skeptical, I ask you this.  How can it be a bad thing to learn to better communicate with men in a language that they relate, understand, appreciate and crave.  I believe the best bi-product of text the romance back is that it transfers over into your real life communications.  By supplying the stimulus via text and getting the reinforcement of a positive response, we learn what works and what doesn't.  It becomes easier to carry these lessons from the pc and cell phone, into our real lives.

Am I an advocate of the text message?  Yes and proudly so! 

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Texts to Make Him Feel Good

Face it, men fall in love because of the way you make them feel. It only stands to reason that you want to send texts to make him feel good as well right?

Men need what I call the three A's to feel good.  They need to be appreciated, accepted and they crave affection.  If this is the case, then why not use texting as a tool to create triggers in men to these feelings.  It only makes sense.  Be creative when you text him and keep these three A's in your mind.

Men want romance, but the macho side of them often keeps them held back.  You can send texts that can make a man feel safe.  When he feels safe, he feels he has permission to be more romantic or even mushy because you have shown him you accept him.

Please note here if you are just beginning to date a man, use caution with these texts, they can back fire if used incorrectly and push him away.  You don't want to come across as too accommodating or needy. You also don't want to get ahead of him.  Let him lead. 

An example of one of these texts is pretty simple.  Lets say you had a great night last night if you know what I mean.  Simply text him mid day with something like this "You were amazing last night".  This tells him that he made you happy and men love to make women happy.  It also shows appreciation.   You can be very specific in this also.  Tell him exactly what he did that was so amazing.  Positive reinforcement.  Works like a charm.

I am not saying to text him empty compliments, be sincere but be creative.  Don't waste your text messages on things like "How is your day?".  This does not create a trigger that makes him feel good.  You want him to associate your texts with feeling good.  Triggers, it's all about triggers.  If you text him mundane things and he is busy at work, he may resent your text on a subconscious level.

So before you hit the send button, ask yourself if you are making him feel appreciated and good.  Are you making him smile.  Or you recreating memories.  This will help bond a man to you.

If you want to perfect this art of texting a man to increase passion and romance, Michael has a great program called Text the Romance Back.  It's worth checking into.

Al He Wants to Text About Is Sex

When a guy predominately texts about sex and very little else, it makes a girl wonder. Is sex all he is after? It sure seems that way. If you have engaged him prior in sex talk or sexting, it's hard to take it back. Guys don't like the rules changed in the middle of the game. If he is texting you about sex, I am assuming that you did in fact participate once upon a time. If you didn't and he is still doing it, get rid of him.

First no one dates to not have sex. It's normal. It's not really normal though to text a woman about it all the time. He does it because you have allowed it. Most guys will at least try to go there. They do this often as a qualifying process. They want to know if the woman they are talking to is relationship material or a fling material. The women that engage in this sexting and put up no boundaries are the ones they usually categorize as a fling.

If you did it all in fun, but regret it now and want to turn it around, there are several ways to go about it. The first way is more back door type. You can try this before you actually address it. When he texts you about sex, just don't answer him or when you do, change the subject. No explanation is needed. Trust me, he knows what he is doing wrong. He should slow it down after a few attempts that aren't met with reciprocation. He should get the hint.

Ah but a lot of men just don't get the hint and you will need to be more direct about this. The first thing you can text back is "Is it normal for you to talk about sex all the time with women?". This will make him evaluate. It also calls him out in a non blaming way. You are just asking a question. How is he going to answer? If he answers yes, then he looks like a douche bag. If he answers no, the door is now open for you to ask, "Then why do you do it to me?" If he answers with a lame reason, just send back, "Oh", or don't answer.

It's up to you to break him of this and establish yourself out of the fling category. If he stops texting you have your answer. He just wanted sex. I would be willing to bet that you will get an apology out of him if you handle this correctly, not to mention move out of the fling zone.

Are you breaking all the texting rules with guys? Your texting habits tell guys all sorts of things about you that you may not be aware of.  Are you textually appealing?

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How To Be Mysterious Texting Guys

It's human nature to love a mystery.  It's the unknown that we often find attracts us to another.  Think about it really.  How much time do you spend analyzing a man?  You do this because of what you don't know, all the while creating a bit of fantasy in your head.  Men are the same way, trust me.  It's what they don't know that keeps them coming back for more.  You can use this to your advantage by creating mystery when texting guys.

So when learning how to be mysterious texing a guy, remember this golden rule.  Less is more.  It's the girl that engages in a text marathon that quickly loses his attention.  She is too available, to much of an open book and this offers him no challenge, not to mention there is nothing mysterious about texting a guy constantly.  If you really like him, this will be harder for you.  You want to talk, connect and chat.  Just remember, you have time.  Don't rush it.  Long term satisfaction over instant gratification.

The little smiley emoticon is one little trick I use to be mysterious when texing a guy.  When he texts a compliment or something that makes me smile, instead of engaging in too much conversation, I just send a smiley face.  This tells him he made me smile and gives him reinforcement.  It also leaves him wondering.  It's just enough to make him try again.  His goal is to get more from you.  It's mysterious to him because most girls just babble on and on.  You don't, why are you different is what he starts to think.

Have you ever noticed that the guys that you don't really like as much seem to be impossible to get rid of while the ones you do disappear more often?  This really isn't a coincidence.  Chances are you are giving more to the guy you like and less to the guy you don't.  You become a challenge to the guy you don't, he is intrigued as you seem elusive and mysterious.  The guy you do like, you are jumping every time your phone goes off and answering him immediately because you are so exited.  Challenge and mystery gone.  So it only makes sense if you want to text a guy and be myserious, text with him like you would a guy who you don't fancy so much.

This takes self control yes.  Once you practice these techniques though and begin to see results, it reinforces that it does work.  It begins to become second nature.  You are in essence training yourself with your own reward system.  Wait to text him, don't be so eagar, be cool, hold back some, and watch him move forward to find out more about you. It feels good. Texting guys is a great way to escalate attraction, use it wisely.

Be friendly and receptive, but don't give too much too soon away in your texts.  We often try to control the outcome.  We share too much when texing a guy way too fast.  A slow simmer tastes better than a rapid boil.  Less is more when texting guys and building that air of mystery.

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When Texting Guys - Stop Doing This

The use of that laugh out loud, also known as lol at the end of your text could be hurting you.  Do you know people that can't send a text message without putting this at the end of it?  I know I do.  It drives me crazy.  I get a visual of the person sending it laughing at everything, even things that aren't funny.  Not a pretty picture.  Men are visual creatures.  Need I say more.

I know it sounds silly but really think about it.  When texting a guy do you need to tell him you find something funny.  Try substituting that lol with a "Now that's funny".  More personal for sure.  You are trying to build attraction here and sure a good sense of humor is attractive, but come on.  To end almost every text with that is just lame.  For more text appeal, replace that lol at the end of a sentence with something that speaks more directly to him.  Every one sends a lol, but not everyone takes the time to type out something creative to take it's place.

It also shows that you aren't confident in yourself when you use it all the time.  If you have to tell a guy you are laughing, well it's sort of defeating the purpose. You don't trust yourself enough to trust him to know you are actually laughing in some cases.  It's more powerful  when texting guys to let him wonder a bit if you found something funny or not.  It makes him try harder.  It's more of a challenge.  To send a lol is like saying, you should like me, I laugh at your jokes.  Pick me!  I am in agreement with you sort of thing.
The lol does have it's purpose. It's a great way to end a texting session.  Ever get a lol and nothing more when texting a guy?  Not much you can reply to that is it?  Ending a texting conversation first is a good way to have more text appeal.  Leave him while the conversation is good and he will be wanting more.  The lol is perfect for this.

On the other hand if he texts you a lol, stop texting him period.  It's a cut off.  To keep texting seems just desperate and will deminish your text appeal fast. A lol sent and nothing else is like a period, the end.  It takes little effort and is often saved as a pre-written message.  The lmao is no different by the way.  Use it sparingly to keep your text appeal in tact. The use of lol is just one of the many tips to increase your textual attraction.

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When Should I Text Him

Usually the time we struggle most with the question of should I text him is in the beginning of dating or when we have just met a guy we find attractive and interesting. A guy we would like to get to know. We want to reach out and push things along. This time in the beginning is when you should be texting and calling him the least.

When texting guys, it's okay to answer them if they text first of course. It's not okay to initiate. If you send the first text every time, how do you know if he is really really interested? If you think that because he always replies so he must be interested, you could be very wrong. Guys that allow the women to pursue them that they aren't pursuing are often setting you up to be the girl for now, not the girl he falls in love with. It's easy, why turn down easy?

I know women who will text a guy and if she gets no reply, she texts him again. This is not good, don't do this. If he isn't answering, there is a reason. If you are one of these women that then will think, "what if he didn't get it", chill out. Have you ever went back into your sent messages to make sure the text message actually went? If by chance he didn't get it, if he is interested, he will text you soon enough, relax. If he doesn't, he isn't that into you. You texting him again will only make you appear desperate, so no don't text him again. It's an attraction buzz killer!

I also know women who will think up reasons to text him. They have some sort of information that they feel will be of interest to him, so they use that as an excuse to make contact. The only time it's okay to text him first with such information is if is also doing the same type of sharing with you. Don't over share and don't be the first to share. Let him come to you.

As a rule when you should text him is only if he texts you first. There really is no other reason to text him unless he is your boyfriend already and your relationship is established. Texting a guy everyday like so many women do will kill his attraction, not grow it. It equals to a guy a girl who is pushing for a relationship. Pushing makes guys run.

Texting a guy the right thing at the right time can drive his attraction through the roof. You can convey mystery, allure, flirting and bring him closer with a change in your texting techniques alone.

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